In the 21st century, the likelihood that a woman would find herself earning more than her husband isn’t little anymore. Centuries ago, a “woman’s place”, used to be in the home front; cooking, cleaning and taking care of the children. Slowly, subtly, the economic and cultural climate has changed.
These days, it is almost typical for a woman to be the main breadwinner of the family. Yet, men aren’t always relinquishing their breadwinner status with grace. Studies have shown that men in marriages where the woman earns more are more likely to cheat, need drugs for erectile dysfunction, and get divorced. Our ideas about how relationships aren’t changing quite as fast as our economic reality, it seems. The more conservative a man’s ideas about marriage and family, the more likely it is that he’ll be uncomfortable if his wife earns more than he does.
This fact is according to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family. Alpha males may get uncomfortable when confronted with the reality of being out-earned by their wife. To them, that idea is very much impractical. Whether because of changing gender roles or economic necessity, dual-earner families are the norm these days, with only 20% of married couples sticking to a traditional “husband works, wife stays home” model. In fact, women are increasingly taking on the role of primary breadwinner in relationships.
Today, women out-earn their husbands in 29% of marriages where both partners work and in 38% of marriages overall. Having a wife who earns more can affect the relationship between the couple.
Of course, it’s depressing to think your marital happiness and longevity could all come down to money. Money, let’s never forget, changes everything. But money here is really just a proxy for our ideas about gender roles in relationships. And while much of the marriage advice literature tends to focus on shared values and goals, very rarely is this articulated specifically about gender and how that will play out on the domestic front. As much as it could cause problems, it shouldn’t be anything major that can lead to a split.
Now that women are working more than ever the two incomes are needed to help the family. It doesn’t really matter whose job pays more. Couples should look beyond that fact and live a decent life in love, trust, understanding and peace.
Women who earn more shouldn’t see it as a way to be bossy. The man is still the head of the family, even if you earn tripple his salary. Be as submissive as ever and in that way, you are setting a good example for your children. Always never forget to pray and trust God.
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