What to do when your child hates school
Truth be told, schooling is a very integral part of a child’s life, so finding a good school is very important. most parents do a lot of research about a school before enrolling their kids. So what do you do when, after all this, your child hates going to school. How do you tackle such a situation? Should you brush it off as a mere tantrum or should you sit down and talk to your child? Here are some things you can do to manage the situation
- Help your child adjust to the new environment: If your child has just started school, or shifted to a new school, she will take time to adjust in the new environment. You can help make the transition easy by explaining what to expect at school and how to make friends. If possible, take your child to the school during non-school hours and take a walk around, to understand and acclimatise with the place.
- Train them for what is to come: School means schedule, discipline and following set routine. For a child who has been running free for so long, this new development can be daunting. Talk to your child and tell them what a routine means and why it is important to follow rules.
- Try to iron out issues: A teacher that your child doesn’t like, a subject she might be struggling with, lack of friends, difficulty with socialising, bad school food etc. there can be many reasons why your child hates school. What you need to do is empathise and help her get over these issues.
- Rule out bullying or physical punishments: Sometimes, the reason for not wanting to go to school could be as serious as being bullied or painful physical punishment. Talk to your child and find out if that’s the reason. If it is, then you need to take quick action to stop it.
- Give your child time to cope: Each child has their own way of coming to terms with change and coping with it. Some children are extremely social and make friends instantly, for some, it takes time. Do not rush or overreact if your child is having difficulties settling in school. Make her comfortable, talk things out and help her have a positive outlook about school.
The important thing to remember is that your child needs to be comforted and understood when she is going through such tough emotions. You have to be the positive force in her life.