Dealing with attention issues from a child is one of the toughest challenges faced by parents. Your child may exhibit behavior that demands too much attention. He may whine, squirm, or cry to get his point across. In this perspective, it is important to keep in mind the psychiatric diagnosis of ADHD.
An acronym for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, ADHD identifies symptoms of both passivity and hyperactivity as a neurological condition. Before you begin panicking that your little one has a psychological issue, please note that it may be a fictitious disease!
Think of it in this way
How much attention is enough?
If your child is creating all sorts of dramas and ruling your household and social circles, it is time to stop it all. That said, how much is enough can be decided by only you. When you notice signs of dominance in your child, or when you see him competing for attention and centre stage, you need to demarcate a line between his ‘need’ and ‘demand’ for attention. Similarly, you will figure out that the child misbehaves to get attention, because he feels if being good doesn’t get one, let me be bad and mischievous.
Children seek attention and approval from adults – from the first scribble to the first word, their centre of universe revolves around the parents. But as they grow up, they start fearing loss of that concern, and thus start vying for it. In this regard, it may be mentioned here that there are three kinds of attention-
Children really do not deserve to be alone. Loneliness is too heavy a burden for the innocent and sensitive mind to bear. If you are not paying attention, is it not natural for your child to display attention seeking tendencies? Look into the faults in your process of upbringing the child. The solution may be in rectifying some of your attitudes.
Such children unfortunately may grow into egoistic, insensitive, and irresponsible adults. Sometimes, the attention seeking behavior may actually point to a valid medical issue. So, if your child is pooping all over the floor despite yours telling otherwise, take him to a doctor for a stomach checkup. Maybe, he is suffering from worms in his stomach! It can be anything, but nothing like a severe psychological disorder that requires drugging the child. If you want to know about the psychoactive effect of the drug, try popping one for yourself. See how you feel, and then think how a child’s body and mind will feel to it
What you should do?
If you feel it is not working out, you may consult with a mental health professional to determine whether your child’s behavior falls within normal developmental limits. They can also help you strategize your parenting styles and structures.