Few married women would choose to go without a wedding ring. As women, when we make the big commitment, we tend to want to show the world. But it’s not so easy to spot the married men, many of whom refuse to wear an obvious sign to show they’re ‘taken’. So are the non-ring wearers just pretending to be single – or reluctant to face up to commitment?
Some men actually do not like to wear any form of jewellery – rings, wrist watch or chains.
Some psychologists say a lot of men may not want to feel that they are ‘owned’, or look like anyone’s possession, and may feel this is the message given out by a wedding ring.’
If your man refuses to wear a wedding ring, don’t jump to the conclusion that he’s less committed to you than he should be and just waiting for his chance to run off with someone else. While, of course, there will always be some married men who want to disguise their status, it’s more likely, that he’s an extremely private person – who prefers to keep his loving gestures just for you, rather than sharing them with the rest of the world. Many men feel that going through the extensive marriage ceremony is more than enough evidence of their commitment to their partner and they don’t need a ring to reinforce that message.
Also, many men don’t need the emotional commitment to symbolic objects – like what most women have. For men who want to marry, the action of getting married is what’s important – not the object representing it. Qomen, on the other hand, show their feelings more – they talk openly about them and think nothing of showing them in public. This is why most women want permanent proof of their commitment in marriage. Today’s married women would no doubt laugh at the idea that their wedding ring sympbolises that they’re their husband’s ‘property’ – rather, they view it with pride as a sign of an important commitment.
A man’s choice of whether or not to wear a wedding ring may also be the unconscious continuation of a family tradition. He is very likely to follow his father’s lead, without even realising it. During childhood and growing up, he will have picked up the message that married men do or don’t wear rings, depending on what his father did. If your man steadfastly refuses to wear a wedding ring even though you’d like him to, it could be that he belongs to this group. If he’s a loving partner who does lots of things for you but doesn’t necessarily find it easy to speak about his feelings, don’t be surprised if he won’t wear a ring. He’s probably just not into symbolism.
Also, he could simply be one of those men for whom wearing any type of jewellery is a complete no-no. If he gives you no cause to doubt him in any other area of your relationship, not wearing a ring should cause you no concern. Of course, if you’re already worried about his fidelity, then that’s quite another matter.
To be honest, there’s nothing wrong in a man not wearing a ring. Your concern should be if he’s performing his roles as a good husband and father. If he’s doing all that and sees no reason to wear a ring, let him be. You can discuss it with him but you need not nag about it.