We all go into relationships hoping for the best; love, care, companionship etc. but how do you know if a relationship would last or not? I tell my friends who are in relationships to always watch out for the little things, because at the end of the day, that is what matters. So how do you know if the relationship you’re in would last or not?
How quickly you forgive each other.
As humans, we are massively flawed. On average, a human being makes at least two mistakes a day. What counts in a relationship is how quick you are to forgive each other your mistakes. Don’t go to bed angry with each other. This is excellent advice for a long lasting, loving relationship.
How you respond to each other under pressure.
The truth is people are made by trail by fire. It either burns you alive or it forges you. Your partner’s response under pressure should balance your own. If you panic easily, they need to be reassuring or vice versa. If you are able to get out of a stressful situation together in one piece, your relationship is worth keeping.
How closely your goals for your futures match.
Relationships that come with an expiry date usually begin that way too. It is important to establish with your partner whether they say the same thing for yourselves in the future as you do. It won’t work if he/she doesn’t see a marriage and you do, or if you don’t want children and he/she does.
How much expectation you put on each other.
Expectations are the leading cause of relationships falling apart. You see, we dream and make this idea of a perfect relationship with a soulmate and put all of that celestial pressure on a human being who is flawed. And of course they let us down. You can’t expect someone to defeat all of their flaws simply because you are in their life.
How secure you are in your relationship with each other.
Jealousy is the worst. First of all, it makes the other person believe you don’t trust them and that hurts. And secondly, it reduces the other person to feeling like they are possessions. If you cannot trust your guy to go to a out with his friends or your girl to sleep over at a friend’s place, what are you doing in a relationship together?
How you treat each others’ friends.
It is extremely important to keep your friendships outside of your relationships. Your best friends, the friends who were there for you through crisis will stay with you before and after your relationships. So it is important that you treat each other’s friends well. Accept them as a part of your other half’s life and make them feel welcome. You don’t have to like all of them, but treating each other’s friends with dignity and respect is a sign of maturity and caring about your partner.
How you treat each other’s families.
Personally, I want a partner in my life who treates my parents and siblings the way I hope to treat theirs. With a lot of respect, kindness and love. If you want your relationship to be longterm, you need to bond with each others families and try to grow closer to them. In times when your partner fights with their family, it is important to be able to give them perspective as opposed to blindly agreeing with them.
How well you celebrate each others’ successes.
There is nothing worse than being with someone who is insecure of your success. As a partner, you are supposed to feel pleased and happy when your other half achieves something, you are supposed to celebrate it. Not pull them down and make them feel unhappy about it.
How much space you give each other.
This is an extremely important one. If you feel the need to be around your partner 24/7 then neither of you are getting the time you need to miss each other. Even the most long lasting marriages are made not from constant togetherness but the ability to give each other space and time to reflect and contemplate, to let things go and to learn how to be better by doing something they love, like a hobby or read. There is evolution in solitude.
How well you grow together.
This is an most essential one for long term relationships. If one person is growing faster than another, inevitably, they will part ways. If you see yourself evolving faster than your other half, the relationship simply will not last much longer.
So there you have it! Do you think your relationship is lacking any of these? If yes, fix it quickly. The earlier you fix it, the better for you.