Does your baby throw tantrum when back from work?
When you leave the house for work as early as 6.30am, there are high chances that your child has missed having you around all day and is trying to get your attention the moment she sees you. Children have a funny but aggravating way of making demands.
But your child needs to know that you care about her feelings, even when she expresses them by screaming. It may look like she’s throwing a fit, but she’s really seeking reassurance. At the point when they start yelling, you have no choice but to pick your baby just to calm them.
Though it may be tiring at first, try to get into some sort of routine so that things are calmer when you get back from work. You could try some of the following as well.
- When you get home, try to put aside half an hour to do nothing more than spending time with her. Play with her, cuddle her and talk to her. The household chores can wait. If you develop an evening routine that makes her feel secure and relaxed, then she is much more likely to unwind and settle down.
- If it’s closer to her bedtime, get started on her bedtime routine. Maybe a short massage, a quick bath, followed by story time and a feed will help you both feel close and comforted.
- Take a look at her daytime schedule. Is she getting the rest she needs? An overtired or over stimulated baby tends to be whiney. See if trying to move her afternoon nap later will allow her to stay awake happily for a bit longer.
- Even when she is playing quietly, putting toys in her mouth or sucking on her hand, give her lots of brief, nonverbal physical attention, whether it’s a pat on the head, a rub on the back, or a gentle squeeze of her hand. All these will reassure her of your love and presence.
- Be aware that crying could also mean that something is not right with childcare while you are away. Ensure your childcare arrangements need are being met. If your child is unhappy with the person caring for her, she may be showing that to you by her behaviour in the evenings. Look out also for any possible signs of child abuse.
Assess the situation with care. Is your baby as anxious on the days you are at home? Does she react this way when she is looked after by her father, or other members of the family? If not, you may want to review who cares for your baby. If all is fine with childcare, then remind yourself that your child is probably going through a phase, and that it will pass.
If you’re still concerned, know you’re not alone! Talk to other mums discussing childcare and various parenting issues you might be facing.