It’s easy to always think someone is having it better than you are. In a world of glitz and glamour well articulated by the social media, we are often tempted to compare our entire journey with someone’s snapshot.
Like Steven Furtick once said “we’re comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.” We fail to recognize that the competitive man never Comes first. He is ever behind because there is always someone that’s far better, smarter and finer.
Comparison can be the mother of offence. In the family, it’s important we resist the temptation to Compare one another, especially with people outside the family. Rather than whine about how your husband is not as loving as Mr. Lagbaja, why not do an introspection. Rather than complain about how your wife isn’t that good of a cook as your best friends wife, ask yourself if you’ve put in enough work on your own field.
One of the keys to a happier life is to let go of comparisons, the attitude of trying-to-be-better-than. Embrace your spouse for who they are whilst encouraging and motivating them to be better. Love your spouse for who they are and will become. That’s the true test of the love you share.
The problem with comparison is that there is no satisfaction. Your spouse is never enough for you. And that’s really sad… It’s now become a drag for you go home, there is something more you feel you need to get outside. You really need to stop comparing your marriage to someone else’s. It’s a slippery slope to a dark place you never want to end up.
3 quick tips on how to deal with comparison in your marriage.
1. Be Real:
No one is perfect, and therefore, there is no perfect marriage. Your spouse will never be perfect. You are both work in progress and need to be a lot patient with each other to get the best.
2. Communicate with your spouse:
Open and honest communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. We cannot stress this point enough! Share some of your insecurities and fears with your partners. Truly let them know how you feel. Now, not tomorrow is the time to talk to your spouse about what kind of marriage you want.
3. Learn to appreciate your spouse:
focus on who they are, and support them.
For every negative thing, be sure to bring up or think of two to three positives.
This exercise will help retrain your negative mind into a more positive one.
What are your own views on comparing marriages??