Things every mom with cancer should know
It’s tough having to go through something you never imagined you would ever go through. Having to deal with breast cancer can be draining and really frustrating. In our own little way, we would love to help out by sharing things a mom should know about breast cancer. We hope this helps ease the pain you’re going through. We deeply care about you.
- Tell Your Kids the Truth They Can Understand.
Kids figure stuff out, and the more you try to hide something, thinking you’re protecting them, the more it can end up doing the opposite. Talking to them would actually help you. It would also demystify their fears.
- Take Some Time To Weigh Your Options. A diagnosis is only the beginning of the journey, and you have to learn to be your own, best advocate along the way. The hard decisions will be yours to make. In order to make those hard decisions, you need to be well-informed, and you can’t be well-informed until you step back and research your options. Take notes, make calls, make appointments, and ask lots of questions.
- Know It’s Not Your Fault. It’s weird how your mind plays tricks on you when you’re down.
I’m here to tell you, you did not cause your breast cancer. It’s not payback for something we did in our past. We are not bad people. We are not jinxed. There are many unavoidable causes of stress in life. It’s part of life. Yes, some of us more tightly wound than others—our differences are what make the world go round.
- Ask For And Accept Help. Trouble is, when you’re going through something you’ve never gone through, you don’t always know exactly what you’ll need, until you need it most, and you’re sitting there all by yourself. So, as much as possible, accept all the help you can. It isn’t weakness.
- Just Say No To People Who Want To Tell You Cancer Stories. I don’t know what it is: perhaps people feel as if they are relating to or bonding with you when they tell you stories about people they know with cancer. I think they really and truly mean well, but I have to say, unless you ask to hear these stories, it’s not always helpful. For me, even the positive stories were hard to hear — I mean, how do you live up to a success story when it’s not always in your control? What I really needed was for them to listen to my story, without judging.
Finally, stay strong Dear Mom! You are an overcomer. We love you and are rooting for you.