What part does birth order play in determining the personality and characteristics of our children? I’ve often marveled about each of my three siblings are and how completely different they are. Are their personalities bred deep inside them or does birth order have something to do with the way they act and react? Does it make a difference to be first, middle, or last children?
Here are some common characteristics of first, middle, and last children.
Characteristics of Firstborn Children:
Firstborn children often act like mini-adults and win the hearts of their elders by trying to please them. Consequently, they get to try all kids of activities that maybe the second, third, or fourth children don’t get to because mum and dad got too tired or too busy. The first born child is responsible and learns at an early age to take care of younger siblings and perform tasks that will help mom and dad out. This responsibility makes them want to be the best at everything they do.
Characteristics of Middle Children
As a middle child myself, most of all these characteristics apply to me. However, I’m not a rebel but I’m hands down a people’s pleaser. Difficult to categorize, middle children often feel a little disjointed or out of place. They don’t get the attention and responsibility that the first child gets, and they don’t really get the devotion that the baby gets either. Because of this, they may try to blaze their own trail by either acting out, seeking a large social circle outside of the family or trying to please their parents and other adults.
Characteristics of Youngest Children
Although some of these traits seem to contradict themselves, I can see how the “babies of the family” that I’ve personally known display each characteristic. Let me tell you something brutally unfair. When I was growing up the first child, my parents were pretty tough on me. I had all the strict rules and they didn’t budge an inch. 12 years later when my baby sister was born, I watched as all rules pretty much went out the window. Either they were just too tired at that point, or they realized that kids are pretty resilient, but my parents became really relaxed with their last born. That isn’t tobsay they don’t discipline her, but not as much as they disciplined my elder sister and I. Youngest children usually receive the least discipline, fewest responsibilities, and the biggest spoils. They learn that being funny and adorable gets them what they want and they are usually the source of fun and laughter.
So what do you think? Does this ring true for your oldest, middle, or youngest children? Although each child comes with unique personalities, I can definitely relate to the characteristics behind birth order.