After decades of listening to parenting advice, we agree that one piece of wisdom is always true: Change is the only constant in life! As a dad, your life is not just about finding your own happiness anymore – it’s about balancing your well-being with the happiness of every other family member.
So when you ask the question, “Will I ever get my old life back?” the answer will always be the same: Your life is constantly new, always evolving, because your responsibilities as a parent and partner make each day and year a new adventure. And as you, your partner and your children grow, you will be changing one another. That evolution has no end point, even when your children are grown and have children of their own. Just ask your own parents.
So your life will never be the same as it was before you had a child. That doesn’t mean, however, that you can’t still do some of the things you loved before you became a dad.
Here’s how to accomplish that goal: Focus on the activities that were most important to you before your baby was born, and with some creative scheduling, begin to work them back into your new life as a dad.
As your child grows, he can join you in some of your favorite pastimes – whether that means he can like your favourite hobby. You can watch your favorite premiership match with them.
The key to satisfaction in your life as a dad is embracing change as a key to unlocking unlimited possibilities. Focus on the miracle of today, of the moment, of “now,” rather than on what you think you lost when you gave up your child-free status. You will become more resilient and capable of coping – and you’ll also be much better at it.