Having a baby changes your life, your husband’s life and your relationship. Each stage of your child’s growth leads to something new. Honestly, these changes are beautiful. This new little person can help you and your husband mature individually and as a couple. However, to experience the positive effects a baby will bring into your life, you need to make sure that you and your husband are in harmony.
Here are 10 questions you need to ask your husband to prepare the both of you to welcome a little one into your lives.
Find out if your husband is willing to sacrifice hobbies, friends, his job, etc. for the caring of your child. He won’t have to sacrifice these things, but being a parent really is a full-time job, so between the two of you, you’re going to have to figure out where to carve out the time necessary to devote to your precious little one.
Believe it or not, it’s not easy to feel sexy when you can’t even remember when the last time you showered. This doesn’t mean your intimate relationships will crumble or that they’ll never go back to the way they were, but it does mean that they might not be top priority for a while. Even so, there are other ways to be intimate and as long as you are both communicative about your needs, you’ll figure out how to keep the romance thriving.
It should not be one person’s responsibility to do all the dirty work. Make sure your husband has the same expectations when it comes to divvying up the baby-caring responsibilities.
Your relationship isn’t in jeopardy if you fight, but if your fights end poorly it is. Fights end well if they end in forgiveness, compromise and solutions. If you resolve disagreements this way, you know your relationship is stable enough to add another human to the mix.
The way you two handle discipline will morph as your child grows and the world changes but it’s necessary for the two of you to be on the same page at every step of the way. For example, if one of you believes in spanking and the other doesn’t, there will be a disconnect in your parenting that will directly influence your child.
No matter how self-reliant you two are, you’ve got to know it takes a village to raise a child. Whether it’s to teach you basics such as how to warm a bottle of milk or to give a hand when you haven’t slept in 72 hours and just need someone to take over for a second, your (and your baby’s) life is going to be so much better if you have a support system. This can be made up parents, siblings, friends, teachers, etc.
It will be inspiring to hear your husband’s vision for your future so that the two of you can take the steps necessary to make it a reality. Ideally, he will see you still together and parenting your child(ren) together for 10 years and many more to come.
As you and your husband grow together through the journey of parenting, you will be experiencing your child’s growth and boy, do they grow quickly. The best way to manage these changes is to get equipment that supports your little one’s development.