Have you ever wondered what to say to the mum with the screaming toddler in the middle of the supermarket? Well, you might not know what to say to help, but here are 10 things NOT to say. The other day, I was in a bus on my way home. A toddler was throwing tantrums and disturbing the peace in the bus.
From nowhere, a woman at the back told the mother “can’t you control your child? What kind of mother are you?” And she said that in Yoruba. That’s caused a mini quarrel as the women were both yelling at each other. I wondered why the woman had to say anything in the first place. Why couldn’t she just mind her business?
If you have kids, chances are you’ve experienced the dreaded three-alarm meltdown in the middle of a public place, making you question if your child is actually human. The only thing that can make the situation worse is a good samaritan swooping in to “help” with unsolicited advice or comments. So, in the event you find yourself swooping, here are 10 things you should never say to a mom with a screaming toddler.
Oh, do tell. Maybe you are magical and can put a spell on my child; for that is the only way possible you are able to get her to calm down.
Oh, I’m sorry you suffer from memory loss. That must be so hard. Besides, kids are different, so what’s your point?
Oh, I didn’t even notice my child wriggling with rage. I’m so glad you called it to my attention.
Let me just stop you right there so you don’t waste your time. I have considered it, right after the last lady came by two seconds ago and suggested the same thing. What’s your business, really?
Who, me? Nah, this is what we do for entertainment.
Wait, what? You mean to tell me I won’t get the pleasure of watching my 17-year-old stomp her feet and scream at me over a bag of sweets? Like I was really looking forward to that.
This is my third child. Should I know how to tame them by now? Oops.
What if she doesn’t want a maid?
Look, if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. It’s not compulsory you must talk. If you’re disturbed by the noise from the screaming child, just put on your earphones and listen to music. It’s not in your place to give unsolicited advice.