Is there really an appropriate age to get married? will i ever be ready to get married? These are some of the few questions i ask myself and my friends.
I and my girlfriend have been dating in the last 2 years and we are just taking it slow and steady. But deep down even though i am not ready to make any serious commitment to her and i do believe she is expecting this soonest. I mean, how long can you date someone for especially if she is of marriageable age?
Its really easier for a lady to just wait for those magic words and expect everything to just fall in place, a self made man who at least has a place of his own, a car and a good job or business. But how easy is it to get a self made man with all these or more these days? And ladies these days dont want anything less compared to back in the days of our parents. Do you really blame them, i also want a self reliant woman or wife, that has a good job, career or business.
But really, are these the only prerequisite to getting hitched.? What about the emotional, psychological, mental and spiritual readiness for the man and woman? These are not considered as important or a major focus whereas they are equally critical.
Getting married is just one aspect, when the kids come and raising good children is another long term aspect in the marriage journey.
I think of all these and i am scared to think about this next step in my life. I have a good job, a car, a lovely girlfriend and hopefully rent a place soon but with all these am i really prepared for marriage?
How do i prepare myself for these other aspects so i can take the bold step and propose to my girlfriend later this year?