Widows are a precious part of any community. Regardless of the length of time since their loss, holidays can be a difficult time. This is especially true with a romantic holiday like Valentine’s Day. Do you know any widows in your life? This February, show them how much you care. Here are some ways that you can brighten a dear woman’s Valentine’s Day.
It’s easy to feel isolated, especially when someone is dealing with feelings of sadness and loss. The simple act of picking up the phone and calling them is a powerful defense against loneliness. You don’t even need to mention Valentine’s Day—you can simply ask how they’re doing, what they’ve been up to, or what they have coming up in the weeks or months ahead. Even if you just take the time to leave a text or WhatsApp message saying you care and look forward to speaking with them, it could brighten her day. So pick up that phone and make it happen.
A thoughtful email is a great way to reach out to a friend or family member. But, if you want to go the extra mile, take the time to mail or drop off an actual card or letter. In the current climate of disposable communication, taking the time to put pen to paper is a rare treat. She’ll know that it took time and consideration, which shows how much you value her. Don’t worry if you have messy handwriting; just take it slow, and don’t fret over small mistakes. The important thing is that she knows you care, and that will be plain to see.
A Valentine’s tradition is the giving of gifts. You don’t need to worry about being romantic, but who doesn’t like receiving a gift? You can pick them up some beautiful kitchenware or tasty chocolate, or pick up that book you’ve been meaning to recommend. A gift doesn’t have to be expensive to be effective. The most important thing is that it shows you care. And while physical gifts are a wonderful treat, the rest of this list contains gifts of a different sort.
We all have tasks around the house that we haven’t gotten to yet, and a widow is no different. If she has a plumbing issue, hire a plumber to help her fix it. If it’s a cabinet that can’t shut again, hire a carpenter and make sure you settle the bills. She’ll appreciate these gestures.
The loss of a husband is always difficult, but there’s an added difficulty when a woman is raising children on her own. No matter how much she loves her kids, there are times she needs a break. Offer to take them off her hands for an afternoon or evening, and you’ll make her day. You can always take them to an age-appropriate movie, a park, or a museum to spend a few hours.
Your presence is often the best gift you have to offer. You can meet for lunch on February 14, or you can rearrange your own Valentine’s Plans to spend the evening with a dear friend. See a fun movie, go shopping, have a tasty meal, or just enjoy one another’s company. It’s hard to feel lonely when you’re with someone you care about.
Widows are special, and that’s why there’s a biblical command to care for them. Being there for one another is friendship at its best, so thank you for loving the widows in your life. If you know a widow in your area or in your family, do not hesitate to show her some love on this very day.