Teenage dating can cause a great deal of stress for parents. It's might be a bit easier if you have a son. But when your daughter begins dating, there are many things to worry about. As a result, parents tend to overlook the numerous opportunities they have for helping their daughter through this exciting time, as well as encouraging her to build healthy relationships. As important as several things are in your life, nothing will ever be as important as the relations your daughter establishes throughout her life. The dating experience will open up a whole new world for her, as well as for you. If you're a high-handed mother who is extremely overbearing and has no respect whatsoever for her feelings, choices and decisions, then you might have a problem. Your daughter won't be able to confide in you or tell you simple things that goes on in her life. You might think there's nothing going on in her life because you feel she's too young, but you're very wrong. The world is changing, so are the people that live in it. Hence, she's not left out. So as a mother, how do you or did you navigate the ups and downs that come with the dating experience? Did you encourage boundaries and limits? Did you educate your daughter about sex? Did you emphasize the importance of confidence? How did you help her find a balance between dating and concentrating on her studies? Did you think the relationship was going too far? Let us know how you dealt with the situation.
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One of my favourite movies of all time is The Help, an awesome movie in which Aibileen, the main character (a black maid) would often reaffirm a little white girl with the following words: You is Kind You is smart You is Important. The little white girl found solace in her black nanny than in her mom, who would always ignore and treat her badly. Perhaps, Nigeria as a nation would have been much more better, if we had more parents who fully understood the importance of building their Children's confidence I am currently reading a book, Those Who Inspire (Nigeria), which celebrates people who contribute to making our nation a better place by sharing their stories, beliefs, emotions, ambitions and visions. In many of the stories written, the characters often mentioned their parents as sources of inspiration, who inspired, believed and encouraged them to be all they could be; interestingly, a significant number of them referred to their fathers as their heroes. Our grandparents, perhaps parents too had excuses, they could get away with the fact that they were ignorant - they believed "as long as you were fed, you were led" - failing to realize that leadership in the family setting goes beyond being able to provide food, clothes and shelter. They failed to realize a destiny had been committed into their hands to nuture, and left everything to time and chance. But as parents of the 21st century, it is high time we taught our kids to believe in themselves. To believe in their dreams and purposes. Help your child know that he is capable in himself - he is kind, smart and important. He doesn't need to belong to that group to fit in. The fine shoe won't make him rule, neither would the ipad make him a fine lad. Help your child see that his values are in his virtues and vice-versa. Hey Parent! You are coach. Know what a coach does? It means you walk closely with your kid. Show your child the ropes of self confidence. Let him know self-confidence stems from self-respect. Never be caught putting your child or bashing his self-esteem, tagging him by his mistakes. Rather than focus on his mistakes and failures, open his heart to possibilities. Ignite a passion for life in your kids. Many opportunities abound in life, it is mostly the self-confident that are found taking the bull by its horns. Teach your child that fear is normal and help him walk through his fears. Finally, dear parent, Never, never never! That's three 'nevers'... Lol. Never compare your kid to another. That's domestic terrorism. I know you like that other kid - He seems like the perfect kid and you wish yours would just be like him but don't compare yours to theirs; it can be a really slippery slope from there. Not only do you create an enemy for your kid, you make him feel unwanted, unloved. And in the words of Mother Theresa, "We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty".
The summer holiday is almost over. With about two weeks to the end of the break, parents need to get things ready for their children for the new academic session. This is a new school year as they'll be going to another class entirely. How prepared are you? Parents should remember that they need not wait until the first day of class to ask for help. Schools are open to address any concerns a parent or child might have, including the specific needs of a child, over the summer. The best time to get help might be one to two weeks before school opens. Many children become nervous about new situations, including changing to a new school, classroom or teacher. This may occur at any age. If your child seems nervous, it can be helpful to rehearse entry into the new situation. Take them to visit the new school or classroom before the first day of school. Remind them that there are probably a lot of students who are uneasy about the first day of school. Teachers know that students are nervous and will make an extra effort to make sure everyone feels as comfortable as possible. If your child seems nervous, ask them what they are worried about and help them problem solve ways to master the new situation. Point out the positive aspects of starting school to create positive anticipation about the first day of class. They will see old friends and meet new ones. Talk with them about positive experiences they may have had in the past at school or with other groups of children. If it is a new school for your child, attend any available orientations and take an opportunity to tour the school before the first day. Bring the child to school a few days prior to class to play on the playground and get comfortable in the new environment. If you feel it is needed, drive your child (or walk with her) to school and pick her up on the first day, and get there early on the first day to cut down on unnecessary stress. Make sure to touch base with your child's new teacher at the beginning or end of the day so the teacher knows how much you want to be supportive of your child's school experience. Consider starting your child on their school sleep/wake schedule a week or so ahead of time so that time change is not a factor on their first couple of days at school. What other things do you do to prepare for the schools’ resumption?
Raising children when you've separated from your partner could be very tricky. I know a family that has been co-parenting for 16 years. Communication is key when raising kids between two homes. It's important to never let your children overhear you argue or carry the burden of adult conversations; instead, put a boundary down and decided to only discuss co-parenting business over the phone, in a co-parent meeting, or over email. Here are things you must know while co-parenting after divorce:
When I look back at my childhood, I'm happy about the decisions I made when I came into my adolescence. The early years were perfectly happy and normal, but the later years were a bit of a struggle for me and luckily, I came out fine. Not to brag, I can pinpoint the triggers that caused the good and bad choices. But a 10-year-old has no ability to understand what is happening in the moment. As parents, it is an important duty to monitor our child and their activities. This allows us to decipher what paths they are headed down. When you just focus on punishment and not the root of the issue, there is a good chance he or she could become a problem child. Here are some of the common signs of a child who’s heading the wrong direction. It is important to recognize these and take the appropriate steps to guide your child back down a positive path.
Setting boundaries is very important when it comes to parenting. In a permissive environment, kids rebel. They rebel because they feel anger and hatred toward their parents for a lack of guidelines and limit setting. My mum set boundaries with my siblings and I at a very young age. A very important way to show your children love is to have clear, defined limitations for them. Your kids want guidelines for their lives that are reliably enforced. You are the one who creates a safe environment for them. Setting boundaries is an important piece of parenting. It doesn’t mean they won’t push your boundaries, they will. It is a part of their learning process and they may even be upset when you uphold certain boundaries, but they will also feel safe and secure at the same time. Here are ways to establish clear boundaries for your kids.
Parents as well as siblings, play a critical role in a child's language development. Studies have shown that children who are read to and spoken with a great deal during early childhood will have larger vocabularies and better grammar than those who aren't. While growing up, talking in the prescence of my younger siblings helped them to speak fast and also understand certain words. That being said, here are some simple ways to nurture your baby's language development.
As a child, I loved watching Television. From TV shows, to documentaries , to cartoons. As funny as it sounds, watching television helped me in a lot of ways. It improved my imaginative thinking, my vocabulary and it also helped me relate with older people better because I knew what was happening. However, TV watching should be monitored. Children under two should not watch television at all, according to recommendations from Pediatricians, and older children should have very limited hours of watching TV. In the real world, parents often rely on television as kind of a de-facto babysitter. It keeps kids occupied while mothers take a moment to catch up on household finances, chores or other necessary tasks. However, the “TV rots your brain” canard may be overselling the negatives a bit as more and more parents recognize the positive aspects of TV viewing, particularly with so many quality choices available. But why should children watch television? Family Time Television provides a reason for families to spend time together. Parents can still limit viewing by designating specific hours or programs on a weekly schedule. Setting aside some of those hours specifically for family viewing encourages interaction, conversation and togetherness. Whether it becomes a bonding moment with young kids watching “Ben 10” or endless discussions about the plot intricacies of “Jenifa’s Diary” with your teens, television can be a catalyst for family interaction. Educational Exposure Educational television puts kids in touch with cultures from around the world in a way that’s deeply engaging. Educational channels like Discovery, The History Channel and especially National Geographic Channel can expose kids to people and places they wouldn’t otherwise encounter in daily life. Even prime time scripted programming, when age appropriate, introduces concepts that are complex and intellectually stimulating. This can help shape a child’s interest and make him more engaged in classes that deal with those specific topics. Inspiration There truly is something for everyone on the hundreds of available television channels, and for kids, watching TV in moderation can help develop interests and even inspire further reading on a topic. Parents should be engaged in their children’s television viewing so they can be purveyors of further information. When a child sees something of interest or has questions about a particular topic, parents can use that as a springboard for deeper study. Develops Language Watching television gives kids whose native language is not English exposure to the conversational rhythms of spoken English. Students who are learning English can benefit from watching English-language television. Finally, television has a social benefit for kids who have difficulty connecting with others. However, psychologists have cautioned that kids withdrawing from family or friends to rely instead on “relationships” built with television characters is maladaptive, but for those with physical or psychological barriers that make social interaction difficult, television can offer some comfort.