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Nigerian couple welcome their first child after 10 years

Mr and Mrs Andrew Omosimua from Delta state welcomed their first child after ten years of marriage. Their family and friends announced the good news on social media. Congrats to them!

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My wife snoops on my phone, divorce-seeking husband

Divorce cases are getting weird by the day. Please avoid snooping through your spouse phone. A 54-year-old husband, Adekunle Bakare, on Wednesday asked an Ikorodu Customary Court in Lagos to dissolve his six-year marriage to his wife, Ajarat, for alleged threat to life and stubbornness. Bakare, a civil servant, who resides at Philips Nwokwe Street, Igbogbo area of Ikorodu, Lagos, also cited lack of respect and checking his phone without permission as reasons for the dissolution request. According to punch, At the resumed hearing, the petitioner told the court that he was fed up with Ajarat’s way of life.
“Ajarat has become used to fighting me with dangerous weapons when we have minor misunderstandings. “She usually checks my phone and accuses me of infidelity. In fact, she once destroyed my phone during argument. “She is fond of attending parties with her friends without my consent; and she never respects me as her husband and father of her two children. I cannot continue to tolerate her stubbornness,’’ he said But the 36-year-old respondent, who denied the allegations against her, accused her husband of lack of care. She, however, pleaded with the court to save her marriage. The President of the court, Mrs. Funmi Adeola, urged the couple to maintain peace pending the determination of the case. She adjourned the case till July 8 for possible reconciliation.  

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Nigerian woman welcomes triplets after six years of marriage

Children are blessings from God, whether they are boys or girls, single, twins, triplets, quadruplets, quintuplets etc.

Every home and family should have children according to the promises of God.  Sometimes couples experience various length of delays from medical issues to unexplained. But one thing is sure it cannot be denied when you believe and trust the promises of God. So if you are strong enough to have triplets and maybe all boys, here is one for you and some facts about them.
 
A Nigerian lady has welcomed triplets, all boys, after six years of marriage. Sharing the good news on Facebook, the lady's relative, Esosa Agbonlahor, wrote:
"Thank God for safe delivery.... My aunt just gave birth to 3 boys....after 6 years of marriage ....we serve a faithful God".
Here are Top facts you may not know about triplets!
  1. Approx 1/3rd of higher order births occur spontaneously (naturally), 1/3rd following IVF or GIFT treatment and 1/3rd from ovulation inducing drugs alone.
  2. Fraternal triplets (tri-zygotic) are created when three eggs are released and each is fertilized by a different sperm
  3. Identical triplets (monozygotic) are created when only one egg is released and fertilized, but splits, and then one half splits again. Very rare
  4. Mixed - two identical and one fraternal (a pair and a spare!) occur when two eggs are released and fertilized separately, and one of those fertilized eggs splits again.
  5. Identical ones share 100% of their DNA, are the same sex, have the same blood types, hair and eye colour, hand and footprints but have different teeth marks and fingerprints.
  6. Over 90% of triplets and quadruplets are born prematurely and/or have low birth-weight& ;(34 weeks is expected pregnancy length &; 1.8kg birth weight)
  7. A 1983 study revealed that a mother of six-month-old-triplets expends an average of 197.5 hours per week (out of a possible 168) between herself and paid/volunteer assistance, on the care of her children and home. This did not include a time allowance for mother to bathe, dress, sleep, eat, relax or talk with partner!
Congrats to them!

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17 years after US-based Nigerian couple welcome sextuplets 

VCU Medical Centre in Richmond, Virginia, US on Wednesday, May 24th, announced that their staff has successfully delivered sextuplets, three boys and three girls. The Nigerian parents, Ajibola Taiwo and Adeboye Taiwo had been trying to conceive for 17 years. The babies were born on May 11 and are in good condition in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Children's Hospital of Richmond at VCU.
A statement from the hospital said they were the first sextuplets delivered at the hospital and a 40-person team was involved and the delivery – which was a C-section – required hours of planning. For the couple, they learned they were pregnant with four babies in November. It wasn't until they arrived at the Richmond hospital that they learned they were expecting sextuplets. See more photos at the link and the full statement issued by the hospital, below: "On May 11 at 8:26 a.m. a 40-person team at VCU Medical Center successfully delivered sextuplets. Ajibola Taiwo, a native of Western Nigeria, was 30 weeks and two days pregnant when she gave birth to three boys and three girls by cesarean section. The babies ranged in weight from 1 pound, 10 ounces to 2 pounds, 15 ounces. All six are doing well and continue to thrive in the Children’s Hospital of Richmond at VCU neonatal intensive care unit. The Taiwos tried to conceive for 17 years and were overcome with joy when they saw four heartbeats at their first ultrasound in November. It was not until January when they arrived at VCU Medical Center that they learned they were expecting sextuplets. “I was excited,” said Adeboye Taiwo, the father. “For the very first time we were expecting.” According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2015 there were nearly 4 million live births in the United States, only 24 of which were quintuplets or other higher order births. Delivering sextuplets requires a coordinated team effort including many hours of planning and simulation. The Taiwos’ medical team included experts from maternal-fetal medicine, labor and delivery, nursing, anesthesia, respiratory, neonatal medicine, social work, nutrition, cardiology and chaplain services. “The team quickly assembled to begin prenatal management and delivery planning including pre-delivery drills and resuscitation exercises,” said Susan Lanni, M.D., medical director of labor and delivery and maternal-fetal specialist at VCU Medical Center. “A typical labor and delivery shift includes one, perhaps two premature births, usually with time in between. We had to coordinate with our colleagues in the NICU for six premature babies to be delivered simultaneously. Developing a relationship with the mother and father was a critical component to the successful high-risk delivery. “We’re going through this extraordinary journey together with the family,” said Ronald Ramus, M.D., director of the Division of Maternal-Fetal Medicine at VCU Medical Center. “It’s not every day that parents bring home sextuplets. Mrs. Taiwo was eating, sleeping and breathing for seven. A lot of the support and encouragement we gave her to make it as far as she did was important, and one of the biggest contributions we made as a team.” Adeboye Taiwo said everyone performed beyond his expectations from the time they arrived at VCU Medical Center. “The medical team is excellent in medicine and hospitality,” he said. “We are far from home but the medical team is our family. That is what got us this far.” Ajibola Taiwo was discharged from the hospital May 18. She and her husband actively participate in the sextuplets’ care in the NICU. “This is an amazing medical accomplishment that would not be possible without the outstanding coordination of our obstetrics and neonatal teams,” said Russell Moores, M.D., medical director of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unitat Children’s Hospital of Richmond at VCU. “While our level 4 NICU cares for the region’s most critically ill and premature babies every day, it’s humbling to help the Taiwos’ new family  survive and thrive. Given their prematurity, they are doing exceptionally well, but should they require subspecialty care, we have all that they could need at CHoR.” “I hope for the smallest of my six children to grow up and say ‘I was so small, and look at me now,’” said Ajibola Taiwo. “I want my kids [to] come back to VCU to study and learn to care for others with the same people who cared for me and my family.
Source: https://news.vcu.edu

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Whao! 63-year-old woman delivers first baby in Jos

For married couples in Africa, children are seen as necessity and most marriages are not complete without children. In fact, women take pride in the number of children they have while most men feel inadequate without children.   However, in our society, women are generally the first suspect in the event of childless marriages. They are subjected to various forms of insults and inhuman treatments if they are unable to bear children for their husbands. In many cultures, even the women who have only female children are persecuted as if it was their making and such women are denied inheritance of their husband’s property not withstanding if they contributed in acquiring such property. The issue of childlessness has put so much pressure on many marriages and bring sadness such that hitherto happy homes have become battle fields and the wives who are always the first to be blamed have had to endure much pains and humiliations hoping that someday they would become mothers. There are some women however who remained childless for several years but are saved from such humiliations until they are able to have their own children because they have the support of their husband. MRS. DAVOU AND HER BABY Such was the fate of 63-year-old Mrs Margaret Davou of Zawan in Jos South local government area of Plateau State who endured childlessness for the 38 years of her marriage until she had her heart desire met with the arrival of a baby girl last Monday. mrs-DAVOU The couple’s prayers were answered through a successful assisted reproduction technology popularly known as IVF treatment given to the woman by a team of doctors at GynaeVille Specialist Hospital, Jos where she delivered her baby through a Cesarean section. Narrating her ordeal in the 38 years of childlessness, Mrs. Margaret Davou attributed the peace in her home to the support she got from her husband, prayers as well as favour from God. According to her, “I have been married for 38 years without a child but at 63 years, having looked for this baby for many years, God decided to answer my prayer, I am very happy having her. I give all glory to God because He is the one who did it. “My husband and I have been praying, trusting God, and I have gone through many types of operations, all in the quest to get pregnant and at last, I thank God that He did not disappoint us, God helped my husband and I because we did not stop trusting Him”. Advising families who are going through such travail, she said, “It is a pity that some families get into a lot of problems because of childlessness but I appeal to husbands to be patient. I thank God for my husband because he has the fear of God. Throughout the period of waiting, he did not threaten me, he did not give me ultimatum, and he was not talking about another wife but was always supporting me. “He was praying with me, believing God and because we were always staying at his various stations, there was no much pressure from extended family. I want to advice people going through the challenge to give their lives to Jesus, trust and serve God, depend on prayer and medical treatment. I am not talking about native doctors or prayer houses because throughout the years, I did not visit those places, only hospitals, my trust in God and prayer worked. “Families and friends of such women should support them in prayer not adding burden or stress to them. If you give your life to Christ with your spouse, you will pray together and God will answer you. Doctors did theirs but all glory goes to God.” Also, the Medical Director, GynaeVille Specialist Hospital, Jos, Dr. Kenneth Egwuda, a consultant gynaecologist and IVF specialist told Saturday Vanguard, “This woman in question visited this facility sometime last year, around June or July which was a month or two to the official opening of the facility. At that time we were giving skeletal services but the facility was inaugurated on August 12, 2016. “She visited us with a desire to achieve conception, her age was 62 at that time so we started the treatment. Initially the age was not very striking to me, maybe it was an oversight because physically, she looked very strong for her age and was okay, she did not have any metabolic disease or any ageing illness apart from the hypertension which also affects any other person either young or old. “When we did investigations, we discovered that she was fairly in a good health condition to attempt this modality of treatment. She’s been married for 38 years without an issue, not even a miscarriage, she has had a lot of surgeries all in an attempt to improve her lot of getting pregnant but to no avail, and she has had tubal and fibroid surgeries. The Doctor added, “She has had this IVF procedure, three other times in different hospitals before coming to us. Two were done Abuja and one in Markudi, this is the fourth time. While I was working and training in London, we had this debate about the age of people who should be permitted   to have this treatment and the debate cut-off was 50, 52 years because at that age, you are supposed to look at a woman with great caution. Although it is not a standard across the globe. “So we commenced the treatmen

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IVF CASE: Clients suspect doctor used own sperm

A group of Dutch people born through IVF treatment petitioned a court on Friday seeking DNA tests on the late head of a sperm clinic to determine if he was their father. The 23 parents and children claim that Jan Karbaat, who died last month, may have used his own sperm instead of that of the chosen donor at the fertility clinic he ran close to the port city of Rotterdam. “It’s a fundamental right to know where one came from,” the lawyer for the families, Tim Bueters, told the Rotterdam court.
“It’s a question of identity, it helps someone to form their personality,” he said, asking the court to order DNA tests to prove whether Karbaat was the father. Karbaat reportedly admitted to having fathered about 60 children in his time at the clinic, which closed in 2009 amid reports of irregularities. Bueters highlighted some inconsistencies, such as that one of his clients had brown eyes when the sperm donor was supposedly blue-eyed, or that another male client physically resembled the doctor. IVF But Lisette de Haan, the lawyer for Karbaat’s family, shot back: “There is not the slightest evidence that Mr. Karbaat was the donor.” She also urged the court to respect the Karbaat family’s right to privacy. Karbaat, who billed himself as “a pioneer in the field of fertilisation,”, even asked in his will that no DNA tests be carried out after his death. But court officials at the request of the families seized some personal objects such as a toothbrush from his home on May 2. DNA tests on these objects would be the preferred option, but the court could also order a test on one of his legitimate children or even call for the body to be exhumed. The court will return its decision on June 2. “As a mother, this judgement won’t give me anything,” said Esther Heij, one of the plaintiffs, after the hearing. “But I see at home how my son’s life has been affected. He was so angry when Karbaat died, and that he was taking this to his grave.” On paper, her son and daughter were conceived thanks to the same sperm donor. “Tests are underway, but it’s not clear if they really are brother and sister. My daughter looks like Karbaat… tall and thin.” Moniek Wassenaar, 36, who also attended the hearing, met the head of the sperm bank in 2010. She recently recounted to Dutch media how he had told her “it was possible I was his biological child.” He said he was proud of what he had done, saying “he was in good health and intelligent, so he could share some of his genes with the world. He saw it as something noble. He had no concept of ethics and minimised the impact on the children,” she added. Karbaat allegedly falsified his clinic’s data, analyses and donor descriptions and exceeded the permitted number of six children per donor.

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What happens to your body when you stop having sex?

Sex is not only pleasurable, it is also therapeutic. That’s what experts say. Experts warn that if you’ve had sex before and now you are refraining from it, there would be trouble! Hence the need to wait when you are married.
The following are some of the risks involved… • Unhealthy heart: Experts say it can be good for your heart, based on a research. Scientists consider the act of sex an aerobic exercise, which is very good for your heart. In fact, certain research assures that a healthy sex life may decrease your risk of having a heart attack.
• Loss of libido: Certified sex therapist, Sari Cooper, notes that, for some people who refrain from sex, they begin to feel more sluggish, with less vitality and low hunger for sex. It is a literal fulfillment of the adage, ‘Out of sight is out of mind,’ hence the death of the desire for it. • Weak vagina wall: For the woman, if you stop, the muscles in your vagina can tense up and therefore make it become painful. Your vaginal walls get weaker. • Anxiety: When you have not for a long period, you may become anxious about it which can lead to tension that can make it uncomfortable. se • You might feel unhappy: Specialist in sexual health and HIV, Dr. Mark Lawton, says if you feel unhappy after a long spell of sexual abstinence, it is very likely that you will be unhappy. Lawton says, “Certainly sex releases endorphins and happy hormones that give a sense of wellbeing that you might no longer get. From a psychological point of view, someone might feel a responsibility to have it – they feel that they should be having it. If they are not, that could also lead to a low mood.” • Risk of erectile dysfunction: Abstinence from sex seems to increase the likelihood of erectile dysfunction in men, according to some studies. The studies tend to focus on older men, but they’re all united in the conclusion that regular sexual activity has a positive effect on a man’s erections. Use it or lose it, as it were. nnn • Compromised immunity: It seems as if sexual activity contributes positively to body’s immune function. In women, these changes appear to be geared towards making it easier to get pregnant. That’s why, if you are not having sex regularly, you will lose that benefit and you may be more prone to illnesses and infections that your immune system would otherwise block if you were having it regularly. • Loss of intelligence: Scientists have demonstrated that sexual activity boosts neuron growth in the brain’s hippocampus. Abstinence from sex does not make the brain grow at all. • Low self-esteem: You may feel less attractive and sadder. It’s believed that semen has antidepressant qualities. Using a condom can have these negative reactions as well. The bottom line: Maintain a healthy sex life!

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All you need to know about Sex and Aging

Changes in sexual desire and behavior throughout your life cycle are normal. This is especially true as you enter your later years. Some people buy into the stereotype that older people don’t have sex. But in fact, many people remain sexually active throughout their lives. Intimacy and connection are still important later in life. The best predictor of sexual interest and activity in your later years may be the frequency of sexual activity when you’re younger. If sex is central to your lifestyle and happiness at age 30, it will probably still be important at age 60. Over the years, your “attachment” to your partner may become more important than “attraction.” And you may measure your relationship satisfaction more in terms of affection, security, and commitment than sexual fulfillment. Learn how aging may affect your sexual habits — and steps you can take to enjoy a safe and satisfying sex life as you get older. 05-secrets-of-happily-married-couples-kids When sexual activity decreases or ceases for older men, common causes include:

  • lack of desire, usually resulting from medications
  • difficulties maintaining an erection
  • poor general health
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  • lack of desire, usually resulting from medications
  • hormonal changes linked to menopause
  • loss of a partner
Although your interest in sexual activity may continue into your older age, people tend to have less intercourse as they get older. Some illnesses and disabilities may also compel you to try different positions for intercourse. This can be off-putting to some people, while others enjoy it. The following strategies may help you enjoy a satisfying sex life as you get older. Stay sexually fit Men who have frequent penile stimulation have an easier time getting and maintaining erections. Women who have frequent genital and clitoral stimulation have better self-lubrication. To help you stay “sexually fit,” it may help to masturbate or give yourself pleasure. Masturbating is a normal part of a healthy sex life. images (36) Explore outercourse A good sex life involves more than just intercourse. It’s also about intimacy and touch. Those are activities that anyone can benefit from. Even if you’re ill or have physical disabilities, you can engage in intimate acts and benefit from physical closeness. Take the pressure off by expanding your idea of sex to include more than penetration and orgasm. Outercourse is the term used to describe a wide variety of erotic experiences that don’t include penetrative sex. It’s about pleasure and connectedness. Take your time, relax, and enjoy the experience of sensual touching. Many people get enormous gratification from sharing sexual fantasies, reading erotica, petting, caressing, and kissing. images (34) Improve your communication As your body and feelings change with age, it’s important to communicate your thoughts, fears, and desires to your partner. People sometimes assume their partners know what they like in the bedroom. But that’s not always true. Like many people, you may feel reluctant to give your partner sexual feedback or directions. You may feel shy, embarrassed, or worried about hurting their feelings. But try to remember, communication is key to a satisfying sex life. Be honest and open with your partner. Using humor may help take the pressure off. Also, older adults are also at risk of other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including genital herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. Many doctors are reluctant to talk about sex with older people. It may also be harder to recognize the symptoms of some STIS among older adults. For example, some symptoms of HIV can mimic those of other illnesses that commonly affect older adults. Those symptoms include tiredness, confusion, loss of appetite, and swollen glands. If you’re sexually active, practice safe sex by using condoms and learning to recognize signs of STIs. If you suspect you have an STI, talk to your doctor. They can prescribe treatments to relieve your symptoms. In some cases, they can even cure your infection altogether. They can also share tips to help stop the spread of infection. It’s normal for your sexual desires and behaviors to change as you get older. But sex and physical intimacy remain important to many older adults. Staying sexually fit through masturbation, exploring new sexual activities, and practicing good communication may help you and your partner sexually satisfy each other. And remember, it’s important to use condoms during intercourse to help stop the spread of sexually transmitted infections. Safe sex is important, even as you get older.

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Consequences of Adultery: 5 men jailed 15 years

Adultery means sexual intercourse between two people, one or both of whom is married to somebody else. So it includes 'one-night stands', as well as long-term affairs.

The word originates from the Latin verb 'adulterare' – to corrupt.

Society has disapproved of adultery since Biblical times, and in some societies the penalties against it have been savage. It is noteworthy that these penalties have mostly been inflicted on women, rather than on men.

 Even in 2015, adultery is against the law in a number of countries, notably Saudi Arabia, North Korea, South Korea, the Philippines, Taiwan and Pakistan. There are still 15 countries where the legal punishment for adultery is stoning to death.
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Astonishingly, in 2015 adultery is still a crime in about 20 of the states of the USA, though prosecutions are now rare.

A Minna Magistrates’ Court on Tuesday sentenced five randy men to three years imprisonment each after they admitted committing adultery. They were, however, given an option of N150, 000 fine each. The accused–Mohammed Faruk, Johnbosco Dedan, David Momoh, Sunday Ekuese and Vincent Emmanuel–were arraigned alongside Naomi Abdulmajeed, on a two-count charge of enticing a married woman and committing adultery.

According to Vanguard, the Prosecutor, Insp Emmanuel Danladi, had told the court that one Abdulmajeed Akin of Tunga, Minna, reported the matter at the Tudun Wada Police Station on April 28. Danladi quoted the complainant as alleging that his wife, Naomi, had an intimate relationship with the other accused persons who each had sex with her on different occasions and at different venues. He said that some of the accused persons were said to have slept with complainant’s wife in her matrimonial home. The offences, he said, were contrary to sections 389, 387 and 388 of the penal code. When the charges were read to the accused persons, they all pleaded guilty and begged the court for leniency. The prosecutor thereafter asked the court to try them summarily in line with section 157 of the Criminal Procedure Code. He also prayed the court to order the accused persons to pay a compensation of N500, 000 each to the complainant. Counsel to the accused persons, Obi Alex, however, prayed the court to temper justice with mercy given their admission without wasting the time of the court. Delivering his judgment, the presiding magistrate, Mohammed Hassan, sentenced the accused persons to three years imprisonment each or a fine of N150, 000 each. He, however, ordered the complainant’s wife to pay a fine of N10,000 only. The judge also ordered the other five accused to each pay a compensation of N100,000 to the complainant.

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Marilyn Monroe’s marriage certificate to be sold for $75K

Joe DiMaggio and Marilyn Monroe's marriage certificate to be sold for $75K

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Marilyn Monroe and Joe DiMaggio’s 1954 marriage license is the headline item up for grabs in Goldin Auction’s Spring collection according to TMZ According to the company’s site, the document, which is dated January 14, 1954, features both of their legal names, Norma Jeane Dougherty and Joseph DiMaggio, along with the signatures of California Municipal Court Judge Charles S. Peery and witnesses Rene Barsocchini and Tom DiMaggio. Bidding for the marriage license starts at $25,000, though the item is expected to go for upwards of $75,000. Perhaps because of the intense public attention that met their union, the Hollywood legend filed for divorce from the Yankee Clipper just nine months after they eloped — shortly after the filming the iconic “Seven Year Itch” subway grate scene — reportedly due to his jealously and controlling nature. Seven years later in 1961, the former couple reconnected as Monroe’s marriage to playwright Arthur Miller came to an end. Despite their closeness in the last year-and-a-half of the actress’ life, they did not remarry before her death at 36 from a Barbiturate overdose on August 5, 1962. DiMaggio remained devoted to Monroe in the decades following her death, even going as far as to have half-dozen roses delivered to her grave three times a week for 20 years following her passing. After his death at age 84, Vanity Fair reported that the slugger’s last words were, “I’ll finally get to see Marilyn.” The couple’s marriage license can be bid on until Saturday, May 20.
The pair who got married on January 14, 1954, lasted only 9 months due to Joe's alleged jealousy.
Marilyn died in 1962 from an overdose of sedative drugs while her ex-husband, Joe DiMaggio died of Lung cancer in 1999.