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Drama as mother lied about her child’s paternity

There is no doubt that the paternity of every child in a family is important. Simply put, paternity means fatherhood. Establishing paternity gives a child a legal father. It also gives the father both rights and obligations related to helping  that child

Mothers usually know who the fathered their child or children and in some cases they do not especially when there are multiple partners. Couples need to be open to each other especially mothers on their child's paternity. There have been so many cases where mothers have lied  or covered up about their paternity of their child or children. This is called paternity fraud though not a legal offense.
A married Nigerian man based in South Africa, Oba Don has put his side chick on blast yesterday after he found out she lied about the paternity of her child. In December 2016, Mr Oba Don shared the news of the birth of son only to discover that he wasn't the actual father of the child after series of DNA test. 5 months later He shared screenshots of the the DNA test and lamented about the N2.5 million naira he's already spent on the lady.
The man shared a photo of the South African lady and said people should stop confusing her with his wife;
"This Is the South Africa Girl Oh Dat Told Me Am Responsible For The Pregnancy Oh,N Made Me Spent Hell Taking Care of The Pregnancy Till She Delivered n After The Child Was Born N All Dat.Please For Those Of You Confusing My Wife To Her.She Is The Fake Baby Mama Oh n Not My Wife oh.Read and Reread again before asking question ok.####DontConfuseMyWife2HerBiko###🙏DNATEST" He wrote
He went on to warn men to be careful of whom they sleep with especially if they have money because the ladies will claim they are pregnant for them just to collect their money. Read what he wrote and see more photos below...


How mothers can create one-on-one time with their children

Whether your children are toddlers or teenagers, they receive tremendous value from one on one time with mum. But mums are busy, and time together can be difficult to find. When you do have it, this time together can be stressful because you may feel rushed. Here are some tips for better one on one time.

  1. Create Traditions – Take a day out of her school day  to lunch, hang out together, and go shopping. She can choose the restaurant and you'll drive or vice versa. Basically, whatever works for you two. If done properly, it can be something to look foward to and help keep their connection strong. Traditions can help your child learn to count on you. For example, if you have your monthly ice cream date together, then the child learns to trust that that time together is a priority for you and something you look forward to.
  1. Stay In the Moment – When you do have coveted time alone with your child, try to stay in the present moment. Don’t start talking about the past when they were little or nag them about their future. Ask questions about what they’re doing and feeling right now and listen to their answers. You can learn a lot about your child from listening to them, rather than thinking about what you’re going to say or worrying about their past or future
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  1. Be Ready for it – One on one time isn’t always planned. If your child comes to you excited about something or wanting to share an experience, whenever possible, set down what you’re doing and be there with them 100%. Whether they want you to watch them practice a dance move or they want you to throw the football to them, being willing to drop what you’re doing and spend time with your child is invaluable.
  1. Foster Uniqueness – Allow your child to dictate how you spend time together and what the two of you do. It’s not necessarily important that you find something you both like to do. You can help your child embrace their interests and unique qualities by inviting them to dictate the time together.
  2. Enjoy the Mundane – You and your child can bond while performing routine activities. For example, you might designate one night each week to cook dinner together. This time together can be fluid. Your child might lead some of the meal planning and preparation. Other joint activities might include gardening, exercising together, learning a new sport or walking the dog.
While many parents lead busy lives, mums need to remember that it’s not necessarily the amount of time you spend with your children, but the quality of that time. Be present, create time to spend together, and allow your child to initiate the time whenever possible.  


Common Symptoms of Hormonal Imbalance in Women

Whenever the word "hormones" is uttered, menopausal women come to mind for most. That's so sad. Hormonal changes affect everyone from birth to death, yet we seem to have a very negative association with that word. For women, the most pronounced changes come in their 40s and 50s, but can been  hormonal symptoms earlier, which has a lot to do with not only lifestyle and diet, but also the pollution, toxins and synthetic chemicals that act as estrogen in our bodies that we're exposed to every day. Some of the most common symptoms of hormonal imbalances are:

  1. Persistent weight gain.
Yes, there are lifestyle, diet and physical activity components to maintaining a healthy weight, but that isn't the end of the story. Many women have underlying hormonal imbalances that make it difficult to maintain a healthy weight. Unaddressed or emerging insulin resistance is one of the most common; small changes in diet — such as eliminating processed foods, sugars and wheat — are steps in the right direction. hormone-imbalance
  1. Belly fat and loss of muscle mass.
When your endocrine system is under stress, there's an underproduction of certain hormones and an overproduction of others (mainly cortisol). This makes your body store fat for future use, making an increase in belly fat a clue to adrenal fatigue.
  1. Low libido.
One of the most noticeable symptoms of hormonal imbalance is low libido, which starts with disturbed sleep. Without quality sleep our sex hormone production can diminish.
  1. Fatigue.
It isn't normal to feel sluggish, scattered or mentally foggy. Easy dietary changes, such as eliminating wheat and most grains, will help stabilize your blood sugar.
  1. Anxiety, irritability and depression.
Not feeling like yourself? This isn't the time for pharmaceuticals. Anxiety and depression are clues that you have an imbalance, toxicity, are overworked, stressed out, and most likely aren't nourishing your body the way it needs. Listen to your inner voice and take the actions necessary to meet your needs. 1274750_1437746519
  1. Insomnia and poor sleep patterns.
This starts the cycle of physical stress and increases cortisol levels, which directly causes many hormonal imbalances. There isn't one area of your life that insomnia doesn't touch.
  1. Sweating.
For many women, night sweats and hot flashes are the first uncomfortable sign that something is amiss. This isn't the time to start hormone replacement therapy, but begin a food journal by jotting down what you eat and drink, how you feel physically, and any emotions that come up after. Many times our emotions are the trigger that increases internal temperature. The next time you feel the flashes coming on, stop and think about the thoughts swirling around in your mind.
  1. Digestion problems.
Gas, bloating and slow digestion are common hormonal problems that aren't usually associated with hormonal imbalances, but may be associated with eating bad foods, not chewing your food and eating too much. When you don't have optimal digestion, your body is starving because of poor nutrient extraction.
  1. Cravings.
After eating way more than you should have, or having gone through half a bottle of wine, do you look back and ask yourself why? Common causes of cravings and excess eating are adrenal fatigue, insulin resistance, and other hormonal imbalances. Again, minimizing sugars, alcohol, dairy and wheat — although difficult — not only will help control cravings, but your digestive issues as well. Please note that many of these symptoms can be linked to other physical problems, and a simple blood test can tell you if there are other underlying concerns. With consistent effort applied to improving diet and digestive health, stress management, improved sleep and consistent physical activity, true holistic health is attainable.  

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When a mother spoils her daughter with so many clothes

Is too much of everything not bad? An 8-year-old Jessica Allen is the poster child of little fashionistas and has the kind of wardrobe many adults can only dream of. The little girl has so many clothes, she never wears any outfit twice.

Her mother, Tammie Allen, 25, is a single mum from Stirling, Scotland, and she admits that she splurges on dresses, shoes and accessories for her daughter but insists the girl is not spoilt.
Jessica's has a colour-coded wardrobe so that everything she wears matches and it's all thanks to her mother's eye for fashion and her willingness to spend on her daughter. Tammie, a healthcare assistant, said that she sometimes gives her daughter a change of clothes up to three times a day just to ensure that she has a chance to wear all her clothes before she outgrows them. She went on to say that she has set a strict budget of £100 a month for Jessica’s new outfits, which often come from shops like Primark and New Look, as well as boutique stores and even charity shops. She, however, said she did not like to put a figure on how much she's spent on her daughter's outfits. Tammie told how she first started shopping for Jessica after her 30-week scan revealed she was expecting a baby girl. She shopped so much that by the time Jessica was born in December 2008, her wardrobe was already bursting with outfits She explained: “I saw how cute the pink, frilly dresses were and got carried away, buying way more than she’d ever need.” She recalled: “I worked full time and was canny with my money – I didn’t go into debt. While every spare penny I had went into Jessica’s wardrobe, I did car boot sales and used Facebook to sell the outfits she’d already worn so I could afford new stuff." Tammie disclosed that her little daughter took pleasure in her pretty dresses and as soon as she could walk, she would toddle about in her dresses and admire herself in the mirror. "She was such a cutie and took as much pleasure from her outfits as I did." When Jessica clocked 4, Tammie said that she became shy so, to get her out of her shell and boost her confidence, she decided to enter her into a local charity pageant. Tammie said it was a great decision and though Jessica did not win any medals, she was able to find herself again on the stage. She explained: “She was so relaxed and beamed at me, her confidence just radiated. Jessica asked me to enter her into more pageants and loved coming shopping for new dresses and accessories. She may have been young but she knew her style and had a big say in what she wanted to wear." Jessica continues to enter pageants and has been crowned Junior Crown and Glory Scotland. Her younger brother, Bannan, 4, is not interested in clothes, unlike his sister who has so many clothes that she hasn't repeated them and sometimes the carpet in her room cannot be seen because it's covered in clothes. Jessica has a walk-in wardrobe, two clothes rails, two chests of drawers, two shelves crammed with shoes, yet it's still not enough for all her collection. Her clothes have also taken up half of her mother's wardrobe. Every month, Tamie and Jessica go through her wardrobe to take out old clothes and make room for her latest additions. Tammie revealed that Jessica never agrees to wear an outfit more than once, so it's necessary to take out the old and buy new ones. Tammie said: "When she was little it was me who wanted her to wear a new outfit each day. But now, that’s Jessica’s decision. When we buy her a new outfit she’ll change into it straight away, and the old outfit will never see the light of day again. She tells me once-worn outfits are 'done' and asks to be paid pocket money to do her household chores so she can save up for outfits herself. I think that’s a pretty entrepreneurial spirit!" Tammie disagrees that she has spoilt her daughter and says that Jessica has learnt to give to charity because of all the pageants she's been in which takes up different charity causes. She said her daughter loves to feel like a princess and loves other girls to feel like princesses too so she sometimes gives her old clothes to charity. She believes her daughter's love for fashion is preparing her for the future. "People are quick to think I spoil Jessica, but I don’t think I do at all. It’s not like she only wears designer or makes crazy demands. I love that Jess takes such an interest in clothes and her style. She is a diva who knows her own mind and how to put an outfit together. If she does end up being a fashion designer, she’ll thank me for all this training. I think she deserves to wear lovely outfits because she’s a good girl with a strong work ethic. The clothes are just a bit of fun." More photos below...

Price of ‘exciting’ self-injectable contraceptive cut

The price of an innovative device which allows women to give themselves a contraceptive jab has been cut. Sayana Press has mostly been used by women in developing countries, as part of a global push to expand access to modern contraception. Working in collaboration with donor organisations has enabled the drug company Pfizer to drop the price from $1 a unit to $0.85 per dose. The move comes ahead of a big summit on family planning in London this summer. The summit, which will track progress from a similar event five years ago, will be watched closely because of recent cuts to global aid for family planning by the Trump administration. Sayana Press dispenses with the need for a conventional needle and syringe – so it has been seen as a significant development for women living in rural parts of Africa. The long-acting progesterone-based contraceptive, which provides contraceptive cover for three months at a time, is licensed for use by the NHS in the UK – but Pfizer admits that uptake here has been “modest”. self-injection The pre-packaged, single-use jab is now thought to have reached more than 1.5m women in countries such as Uganda and Burkina Faso. A long-term commitment to helping fund this programme – by organisations including the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation and the Children’s Investment Fund Foundation – has helped drive the price down. ‘I now feel in charge’ In Uganda, one of four pilot countries, 160,673 doses of Sayana Press were handed out during the past two years. Dr Dinah Nakiganda-Busiku, from the Uganda Ministry of Health, said: “Women told us that self-injecting gave them more privacy. “We hope to now make this part of our public procurement plan, so we don’t have to rely on donors.” One user from a small village in northern Uganda, a mother-of-two called Ms Fiona, described how previously she had had to take a long motorcycle trip to reach a clinic. She said: “Last July, one of the health workers told me I could inject myself – and she trained me. “I now feel more in charge of my life and my future as a mother.” ‘Uncertainty’ about US position on family planning The London summit five years ago agreed an ambitious goal to enable 120m more women around the world to access contraceptives. Chris Elias, president of global development for the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, said: “The London summit will be an important follow-up event where we can look carefully at the significant progress that’s been made. “There is currently a lot of uncertainty about the US position. But we hope to continue what has been a long-standing collaboration. “But there is a long history of bipartisan support for development aid – and particularly in supporting the health of women and children. “Our foundation looks forward to working with the new administration.”


Child safety: Toddler falls out of a moving car

As parents and guardians, we have full responsibility to ensure our kids are safe always, homes, schools or out.
According to  CDC, Motor vehicle injuries are a leading cause of death among children in the United States. But many of these deaths can be prevented.
  • In the United States, 663 children ages 12 years and younger died as occupants in motor vehicle crashes during 2015, and more than 121,350 were injured in 2014.
  • One CDC study found that, in one year, more than 618,000 children ages 0-12 rode in vehicles without the use of a child safety seat or booster seat or a seat belt at least some of the time.
  • Of the children ages 12 years and younger who died in a crash in 2015 (for which restraint use was known), 35% were not buckled up.
A very shocking video has emerged showing the heart-stopping moment a toddler dramatically tumbled out of a car and landed in the road after she managed to open the door while her parents drove.
The child, who was not strapped into a car seat, can be seen landing in the middle of the road while her unsuspecting mother continued on the journey.
A little while later, the car suddenly comes to a halt and the driver dashes back for the child. The incident took place in the city of Hsinchu, in north-western Taiwan, where the child was lucky enough not to be run over by other drivers at the junction.
Dashcam footage provided by another motorist behind them shows how the child opened the back door on the left side of the white sedan.The couple driving the car which recorded the incident quickly blasted their car horn to alert the child's parents. Pedestrians also ran over to the girl, and one of them picks the child up and later handed him back to his parents. Luckily, she was not harmed. See the video below...

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Shocking! Father beheads 6-year-old son for money ritual

Why is the love of money now more important to men than their own children.

Its shocking and depressing what people and even parents do these days, the wickedness and gruesome acts  is condemned.

How will a father kill and butcher his own son?

A father and son relationship is one of the strongest bond in families even though it can be complex.

Police on Tuesday, April 25, nabbed a 31-year-old father and farmer identified as Abdul Salam for killing his 6-year- old son and cutting off his head and legs at Adidaase near Amanso Amenfi in Wassa Amenfi of western region, Ghana. Speaking to Energy fm of Prestea,one eyewitness explain that the boy got missing since yesterday which made the the unity committee of the area conducted a search. It happened that the father Abdul Salam butchered his son and removed some part of him and upon into interrogation confessed that he murdered him to sell the head and the legs. Abdul Salam is in the custody of Asanco police command for further investigation.
Be warned graphic: photo below, viewers discretion advised. Photo credit: Nana


Four Strategies for Protecting Kids from Sexual Predators

A sexual predator is a person seen as obtaining or trying to obtainsexual contact with another person in a metaphorically "predatory" or abusive manner. Analogous to how a predator hunts down its prey, so the sexual predator is thought to "hunt" for his or her sexpartners.
High-profile news stories about children and teens being sexually abused by trusted teachers, religious leaders, neighbours, and family members continue to shock parents, educators, and other caring adults across the country. These sad stories are classic examples of how individuals can misuse their positions of trust and power to abuse and coerce kids and of how adults in responsible positions often fail to take adequate action to stop them. Parents and other concerned adults are left wondering, “What do I need to watch out for? How can I protect my kids? What can I teach them about protecting themselves?” Black-Children-Braided-Hairstyles  
  1. Put Safety First
The safety and self-esteem of a child are more important than anyone’s embarrassment, inconvenience, or offense. If you suspect that there is a safety problem, especially involving children, take personal responsibility for doing something to address it. This means speaking up persistently and widely until effective action is taken to fix that problem. Don’t just tell someone, even if that person is in a position of authority, and assume that your responsibility is at an end. Follow up to see what is happening. Realize that children and young people who are being abused need help and protection – and that anyone who is abusing them needs to be stopped. short-hairstyles-for-curly-hair-girls-images
  1. Make sure you know what someone is doing with your kids. Remember that anyone can be an abuser. As parents and other caring adults, we need to face the reality that there are sexual predators who will create opportunities to be alone with kids by doing wonderful things with and for them. And, most of these offenders will seem like really nice people with excellent reputations. Many will even provide truly important services for most of the children they encounter. Most adults who choose to do great things with kids are good people who truly want to help. A coach, a youth group leader, a teacher, a Big Brother/Big Sister, a religious leader, and a child therapist can all have relationships with children and teens in the context of their paid or volunteer role, and these relationships can be tremendously important to a young person. However, the vulnerability of young people to anyone put into these positions of trust is why more attention needs to be paid to screening these individuals and to following up thoroughly on any hint of a problem.
images (28) Don’t just trust people just because they are part of a reputable organization, place of worship, or school. Check each person out for yourself, especially if he or she is going to be alone with your child. Check references. Don’t assume that someone will tell you if something bad happens.  Trust your intuition if something feels uncomfortable to you. Watch out for someone who seems to single out certain kids for special attention and private relationships, who seeks social and recreational opportunities to be alone with kids without other adults there, or who is not open to parents and other responsible adults being fully informed about and comfortable with what is going on.  When in doubt, check it out!
  1. LISTEN to your children and teach them not to keep unsafe secrets. Most abusers cultivate strong relationships with children before doing anything sexual. Often, they start by testing a child’s boundaries by being inappropriate in other ways. Listen to your kids. Get kids into the habit of talking to you by asking supportive questions, being a good listener, and not lecturing. Pay attention to what they say. Let kids know that you care about what they are doing and want to know what is happening with them no matter how busy you are.
Once in a while, in a calm, conversational way, at a peaceful moment, ask,  “Is there anything you’ve been wondering or worrying about that you haven’t told me?” Thank the child for telling you and listen with interest to the answers. Don’t tease, even if what the child says seems silly. Avoid scolding at that moment, even if the child has done something wrong. Be very clear with all children in your life that secrets about problems, touch, favors, gifts someone gives them, photos or videos, privileges, time alone with anyone, and games are not safe.  Their job is to tell you and other adults theimages (28)y trust instead of keeping secrets, even if someone they care about will be upset or embarrassed. 4)  Prepare young people to take charge of their safety by practicing skills. One quick action can stop most abuse – pushing someone’s hand away, ordering someone to stop, leaving as soon as you can, resisting emotional coercion, and telling. Kids are more likely to be able to take actions like these when they need to if they understand their safety rules and have the chance to rehearse following these rules in a fun, age-appropriate way. Using non-sexual examples such as tickling or roughhousing, role-play with kids skills for setting boundaries on touch and teasing with people they know and care about even if someone tries to pressure them. Using non-sexual examples such as someone hurting their feelings or playing a scary game, give kids practice on how to interrupt a busy adult with a safety problem and tell the whole story. Practice what to do if the adult doesn’t listen by persisting and, if need be, how to keep telling different adults until someone helps solve the problem.


1-year-old beaten to death at a daycare by an 8-year-old girl

 The abuse of a baby by a child

A mother has been left heartbroken following the death of her 1-year-old son in a daycare in Muskegon, Michigan. On that fateful day, Bryanna Reasonover had taken her son to Keysha Keepers daycare like every other day, not knowing that would be the last time she will see him alive. When she returned to pick her son, Korey Brown, and his other siblings, she found him inside a playpen and when she went to carry him up thinking he was sleeping, she noticed he was motionless and his head tilted over. She looked closely and found bruises and bite marks all over his body.
First responders were called to the Daycare at 6:50 a.m. and Korey was pronounced dead at 8 a.m., following resuscitation and other life-saving efforts.
"I picked Korey up and I'm thinking he's asleep and then his face tilts over. I'm saying 'What's wrong with my baby's face?' I'm thinking he's still asleep," Bryanna said
The cause of the death remains unknown though a 5-year-old who is believed to be the only witness of the toddler's death, informed the police that it was an 8-year-old girl who was responsible, but because of the age of the child, the officers are not able to get much. Police believe the children had been left without supervision for about a couple of hours and that was when the death occurred.
Authorities said Korey was dropped off at the daycare, which was run out of a home, the previous night and left unsupervised with an 8-year-old girl, who had been left at the facility around 2 a.m. that day. Police Chief Jeffrey Lewis told MLive.com that the death was most likely unintentional.
"The 1-year-old was crying and it appears no one was attending to the child. The 8-year-old dealt with the baby crying … This person that was involved in the death probably felt something was wrong. If you're a child and break something, you try to hide it," Lewis said.
The 8-year-old girl was taken for a mental evaluation at Mercy Health Partners Hackley Campus while police continue to investigate.
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 What to do when your child hates school

  Truth be told, schooling is a very integral part of a child’s life, so finding a good school is very important.  most parents do a lot of research about a school before enrolling their kids. So what do you do when, after all this, your child hates going to school. How do you tackle such a situation? Should you brush it off as a mere tantrum or should you sit down and talk to your child? Here are some things you can do to manage the situation

  • Help your child adjust to the new environment: If your child has just started school, or shifted to a new school, she will take time to adjust in the new environment. You can help make the transition easy by explaining what to expect at school and how to make friends. If possible, take your child to the school during non-school hours and take a walk around, to understand and acclimatise with the place.
  • Train them for what is to come: School means schedule, discipline and following set routine. For a child who has been running free for so long, this new development can be daunting. Talk to your child and tell them what a routine means and why it is important to follow rules.
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  • Try to iron out issues: A teacher that your child doesn’t like, a subject she might be struggling with, lack of friends, difficulty with socialising, bad school food etc. there can be many reasons why your child hates school. What you need to do is empathise and help her get over these issues.
  • Rule out bullying or physical punishments: Sometimes, the reason for not wanting to go to school could be as serious as being bullied or painful physical punishment. Talk to your child and find out if that’s the reason. If it is, then you need to take quick action to stop it.
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  • Give your child time to cope: Each child has their own way of coming to terms with change and coping with it. Some children are extremely social and make friends instantly, for some, it takes time. Do not rush or overreact if your child is having difficulties settling in school. Make her comfortable, talk things out and help her have a positive outlook about school.
The important thing to remember is that your child needs to be comforted and understood when she is going through such tough emotions. You have to be the positive force in her life.