What to do when your child hates school

  Truth be told, schooling is a very integral part of a child’s life, so finding a good school is very important.  most parents do a lot of research about a school before enrolling their kids. So what do you do when, after all this, your child hates going to school. How do you tackle such a situation? Should you brush it off as a mere tantrum or should you sit down and talk to your child? Here are some things you can do to manage the situation

  • Help your child adjust to the new environment: If your child has just started school, or shifted to a new school, she will take time to adjust in the new environment. You can help make the transition easy by explaining what to expect at school and how to make friends. If possible, take your child to the school during non-school hours and take a walk around, to understand and acclimatise with the place.
  • Train them for what is to come: School means schedule, discipline and following set routine. For a child who has been running free for so long, this new development can be daunting. Talk to your child and tell them what a routine means and why it is important to follow rules.
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  • Try to iron out issues: A teacher that your child doesn’t like, a subject she might be struggling with, lack of friends, difficulty with socialising, bad school food etc. there can be many reasons why your child hates school. What you need to do is empathise and help her get over these issues.
  • Rule out bullying or physical punishments: Sometimes, the reason for not wanting to go to school could be as serious as being bullied or painful physical punishment. Talk to your child and find out if that’s the reason. If it is, then you need to take quick action to stop it.
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  • Give your child time to cope: Each child has their own way of coming to terms with change and coping with it. Some children are extremely social and make friends instantly, for some, it takes time. Do not rush or overreact if your child is having difficulties settling in school. Make her comfortable, talk things out and help her have a positive outlook about school.
The important thing to remember is that your child needs to be comforted and understood when she is going through such tough emotions. You have to be the positive force in her life.
 
   

Menopause: 8 in 10 women get mood swing

Menopause is the medical term for the end of a woman’s menstrual period.  It is often called the “change of life” and marks the transition between a woman’s childbearing years and her non-childbearing years.  Menopause is a natural part of aging and occurs as a result of the gra Dr Buki Adewole, a Consultant Gynecologist and Obstetrician at the University College Hospital,UCH, Ibadan, says eight out of 10 women suffer sudden mood swings at menopause. Adewole told the News Agency of Nigeria yesterday, that the mood swings and menopausal hot flashes were common to all women particularly from ages 40 and above. MP 1 Experts including Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English define mood swings as extreme or abrupt fluctuations in emotional state; it can also be a sign of mental illness precedent to the end of menstrual cycle in women. Wikipedia states that mood swing is an extreme or rapid change in mood. Such mood swings can play a positive part in promoting problem solving and in producing flexible forward planning. However, when mood swings are so strong that they are disruptive, they may be the main part of a bipolar disorder. “The mood swings are  one of the most common symptoms of menopause which could be very frustrating for women. “Menopausal age varies from women to women, but it generally starts between ages 40 to 55 in women and that it is at this period that the fertility of the woman diminishes. “During mood swings women often experience drastic shifts in emotional state and exhibit inappropriate emotional reaction.” images (27) “Fortunately, it is widely known that mood swings are caused by fluctuating estrogen and progesterone levels as soon the woman enters the pre-menopausal age,” Adewole said. She added:”Mood swings during menopause are caused largely by the hormonal transitions women go through during this time. “Hormones, such as estrogen, influence the production of serotonin, which is a mood-regulating neurotransmitter. “Mood swings can leave a woman laughing hysterically one moment and weeping the next moment and understanding why they occur is the key to getting solutions.” The gynecologist, who described it as troublesome and traumatic, however, pointed out that the experience differ among women. 2016_10_23_77236 Adewole said the condition was usually worsened by stress and anxiety and that in order to mitigate the effects of mood swings it was better for women to avoid putting themselves under stress and anxiety. “Of course, medications to regulate the hormonal imbalance are also one of the ways to treat mood swings. “I will advise spouses and children to understand this stage in a woman’s life so that she can be helped to lessen the discomfort,” she said.

Former Super Falcons star molested as a child

  Footballer Chi-Chi Igbo (aka Chified) describes how a priest molested her as a young girl - The Super Falcons star says her father came to her rescue when he confronted the clergy man - The former footballer warns parents to be observant and cautious of child molesters. Former Super Falcons star Chi-Chi Igbo (aka Chified) has she escaped the clutches of a child molester, po The footballer, in an Instagram post, warns parents to be careful of the kind of people their children relate with. “So many psychos, perverts and Pedophiles out there. fpp7 Parents be cautious, be observant, I too was a victim, to a so called man of God,” she said. Former Super Falcons star Chichi Igbo. She praised her father who stood up for her by confronting the unnamed molester. Chichi Igbo “I appreciate my dad even though We didn’t have the best relationship but for the fact that he was observant enough to notice and help put a stop to what was going on, I’m forever grateful to him,” she said. She continued in her post: “Why I don’t believe 99% of these business men and abusers of the church, the word of God and it’s true purpose.” Igbo is now a personal trainer “You don’t know me and where I am coming from,” she said in her plethora of hashtags, adding that her experiences are “why no human born of a woman can tell me who to be. I know who I am – a proud woman  

All about irregular period every woman must know

Irregular periods are usually not signs of serious problems but in some cases they indicate the presence of a serious medical problem and could result in serious complications like infertility. In teenagers and women approaching menopause, irregular periods can be said to be normal, however in women of other ages besides these two categories, irregular periods is noteworthy and should therefore call for concern. For these women, they find that their periods usually come either earlier or later than usual and therefore highly unpredictable; their periods also vary in how long they last and how heavy they are. african-women14 There are some of the causes of irregular periods:

  • Some type of birth control pills can cause irregular periods
  • Imbalance of the hormones progesterone and oestrogen can make periods irregular
  • Excessive exercising and dieting can upset the timing of menstrual flow and can stop it altogether
  • Stress and anxiety can affect the menstrual cycle and make periods irregular
  • Certain disease can also affect menstrual cycle. These illnesses include: STDs, endometriosis, diabetes and fibroids
Irregular periods that are very heavy and last longer than seven days and that are accompanied by bleeding between periods or after sex should necessitate a visit to the hospital. Likewise when irregular periods become the norm, a woman should visit the hospital. For women trying to conceive, irregular periods might make conception more difficult, especially if ovulation does not occur every month. Nevertheless, with irregular periods, a woman can still get pregnant on her own, but it is always best to see a doctor to ensure there are no other problems.  

Parents beware of fighting in front of the kids 

Couples have arguments and fights which is normal, but having them in front of the kids can be detrimental. Parents model the behaviors that children will use in the world; if parents model fighting to express negative feelings, then kids will think that this is how to express themselves when they are upset. They also do not learn healthy, effective negotiation skills. No matter what you're fighting about: money, sex, kids or something else, the fighting is an indication that your communication isn't working.  If this happens only occasionally, such as when one or both of you are tired or stressed; it's not too big a problem. fighting 2 However, if you argue or bicker on a daily or weekly basis, or you keep fighting about the same thing over and over, then your communication is not functioning as it should, and you don't know how to move from a problem to the solution.  When this happens, problems are recurrent, endless, and they can be exaggerated into relationship disasters. Here are some ways this can be avoided

  1. Don't Participate
Disagreements always require two people. If you don't participate, your partner can't argue without you. If the issue arises at an inopportune time, you can just find a temporary resolution (temporarily give in, go home, leave the restaurant) and wait until things calm down to discuss what happened (the squabble may just have been a case of too much alcohol, or being tired and irritable.) Then talk about what you can do instead if it ever happens again. fighting 3
  1. Discuss Recurring Problems
To resolve recurring problems, discuss related decisions with your spouse and find out what each of you does and does not want before making important decisions.  You have a lot of options; so don't let confusion add to the stress.
  1. Seek to Understand Make sure you and your partner understand each others' point of view before beginning to solve the problem. You should be able to put your mate's position in your own words, and vice versa.  This does not mean that you agree with each other, just that you understand each other.
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  1. Solve It for the Two of You Come up with a solution that works for just the two of you, ignoring anyone else's needs. It's much easier to solve a problem for the two of you than for others you may not understand.  After you are clear with each other, discuss the issues with others who may be involved.
  1. Talk to Others If extended family members or friends might have problems with your decision, talk about what objections they might have, so you can diffuse them beforehand. Discuss possible ways to handle their objections.
Squabbles often occur because you're following automatic habit patterns that lead to a problem before you know it. Using these guidelines will help you overcome negative habit patterns you may have built that lead to arguments or bickering. Remember, your fighting constantly is emotionally damaging to your kids.  

Causes, treatment of nosebleeds in Children

When your child suddenly has blood pouring from their nose, it can be startling. Apart from the urgency to contain the blood, you may be wondering how in the world the nosebleed started. Fortunately, while nosebleeds in children can seem dramatic, they’re not usually serious. Here are the most common causes of nosebleeds in kids, the best ways to treat them, and what you can do to help prevent them from happening again.

Causes

Colds and allergies: A cold or allergy causes swelling and irritation inside the nose and may lead to spontaneous bleeding. Trauma: A child can get a nosebleed from picking his nose, or putting something into it, or just blowing it too hard. A nosebleed also can occur if he is hit in the nose by a ball or other object or falls and hits his nose. nose bleeding Low humidity or irritating fumes: If your house is very dry, or if you live in a dry climate, the lining of your child’s nose may dry out, making it more likely to bleed. If he is frequently exposed to toxic fumes (fortunately, an unusual occurrence), they may cause nosebleeds, too. Anatomical problems: Any abnormal structure inside the nose can lead to crusting and bleeding. Abnormal growths: Any abnormal tissue growing in the nose may cause bleeding. Although most of these growths (usually polyps) are benign (not cancerous), they still should be treated promptly. Abnormal blood clotting: Anything that interferes with blood clotting can lead to nosebleeds. Medications, even common ones like aspirin, can alter the blood-clotting mechanism just enough to cause bleeding. Blood diseases, such as hemophilia, also can provoke nosebleeds. nb Chronic illness: Any child with a long-term illness, or who may require extra oxygen or other medication that can dry out or affect the lining of the nose, is likely to have nosebleeds.

Treatment

There are many misconceptions and folktales about how to treat nosebleeds. Here’s a list of dos and don’ts.

Do. . .

  1. Remain calm. A nosebleed can be frightening, but is rarely serious.
  2. Keep your child in a sitting or standing position. Tilt his head slightly forward. Have him gently blow his nose if he is old enough.
  3. Pinch the lower half of your child’s nose (the soft part) between your thumb and finger and hold it firmly for a full ten minutes. If your child is old enough, he can do this himself. Don’t release the nose during this time to see if it is still bleeding. Release the pressure after ten minutes and wait, keeping your child quiet. If the bleeding hasn’t stopped, repeat this step. If after ten more minutes of pressure the bleeding hasn’t stopped, call your pediatrician or go to the nearest hospital

Don’t . . .

  1. You’ll just scare your child.
  2. Have him lie down or tilt back his head.
  3. Stuff tissues, gauze, or any other material into your child’s nose to stop the bleeding.
See the doctor if
  • You think your child may have lost too much blood. (But keep in mind that the blood coming from the nose always looks like a lot.)
  • The bleeding is coming only from your child’s mouth, or he’s coughing or vomiting blood or brown material that looks like coffee grounds.
  • Your child is unusually pale or sweaty, or is not responsive.
  • He has a lot of nosebleeds, along with a chronically stuffy nose. This may mean he has a small, easily broken blood vessel in the nose or on the surface of the lining of the nose, or a growth in the nasal passages.
    Prevention If your child gets a lot of nosebleeds, ask your pediatrician about using saltwater (saline) nose drops every day. Doing so may be particularly helpful if you live in a very dry climate, or when the furnace is on. In addition, a humidifier or vaporizer will help maintain your home’s humidity at a level high enough to prevent nasal drying. Also tell your child not to pick his nose.  

Extending Learning to the Playground

The link between physical activity and learning is strong. Children learn by doing and being actively engaged. Not only does physical activity promote physical development, it also supports cognitive, social and emotional development. While research has proven these points, they are also evident when watching a child playing. Children practice impulse control, planning, negotiation, and timing through simple activities. These skills often develop through unstructured play, but they can purposefully be strengthened during planned activities as well. The school playground and even your backyard is not just a place where children can run and play with abandon; it offers a wealth of cognitive and social-emotional learning opportunities as well. Consider these common experiences and the learning and developmental opportunities they provide:

  • Meeting new children – reciprocal communication, self-confidence, sharing
  • Playing games – negotiation, perspective taking, teamwork, turn taking, cooperation
  • Swings – gravity, force of motion, balance, action/reaction
  • Tag – decision-making, flexible thinking, risk-taking, responding to changed reality
  • Bars – self-regulation, coordination.
  • Play in sand, dirt, or even mud – sensory and texture awareness, states of matter
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While ABCs and 123s are important, many teachers state that social-emotional competencies are key (and often missing) in children entering kindergarten. There are multiple ways to develop these, as well as higher-order thinking skills, during physical play. Plan or encourage activities and games that require your child to:
  • Follow directions in sequence.
  • Regulate their behavior and control impulses.
  • Make decisions and adapt to change.
  • Work cooperatively with others and negotiate. Example: Jumping rope
  • Take on a supportive role as well as a leadership role. Example: Follow the Leader
  • Take turns and share. Example: Hide and Seek.
  • Develop spatial awareness and consider distances
  • Experience success (any goal they set for themselves) based on their own abilities and knowledge without adult intervention.
As important as education is, a child's playtime should never be skipped as it helps to balance everything together.  

Father beats 7-year-old son to death, feeds remains to pigs

A 41-year-old Kansas man admitted to killing his 7-year-old son and feeding his body to pigs

Michael A Jones pleaded guilty in Wyandotte County District Court last Friday, March 31, to one count of first-degree murder over the death of child Adrian Jones. The boy’s remains were found in a barn at a home rented by Jones and his wife, 31 year old Heather Jones.. The crime scene was “one of the worst things” investigators had seen in their careers, according to Wyandotte County District Attorney Jerome Gorman. Chief Deputy District Attorney Sheryl Lidtke described Adrian Jones as a curious, energetic boy who was cute as a button and said the abuse he endured was the worst she had seen in her nearly three decades as a prosecutor. "He was horribly abused, neglected and ultimately killed. I 'm sure his suffering was unbearable" she said, adding that he was essentially starved to death. FATHER According to court documents, he died between September 18 and October 4th, 2015, but his remains weren't found until more than a month later when police were called to the family's home for a domestic disturbance. Jones was arrested the day before Thanksgiving in 2015 and later charged with aggravated battery and assault for the incident, but investigators learned while on the couple's property that the boy had not been seen for several months. A search warrant was then executed on the property and human remains found in a barn were later identified as Adrian's, through DNA testing. The boy's stepmother, Heather Jones, pleaded guilty to first-degree murder and child abuse in November. She was sentenced to life in prison with no chance of parole for 25 years. She also received an additional five years and eight months in prison for child abuse. Jones, who faces a life sentence with no chance of parole for 25 years, is scheduled to be sentenced on May 3, 2017. Judy Conway, the boy's grandmother said she was relieved to learn of the guilty plea. "It makes me pretty happy. I am relieved that Jones and Heather Jones will hopefully be behind bars for the rest of their lives. It won't bring Adrian back, of course, but it makes me feel really good that neither one can hurt another child again." Source: Kansas City Star  

Woman with two vaginas describes struggles of condition

A British woman who was born with two vaginas has revealed the difficulties of the rare condition — including prolonged periods and numerous miscarriages. Known only as Nicci, she is due to appear on the BBC3 documentary The Woman With Two Vaginas: Living Differently — which will be aired across Britain later this month. In the programme, she describes that sex made her feel like ‘a freak of nature’ because men would brag about sleeping with a woman with two vaginas. nintchdbpict000313128882 Her condition made her feel so bad that she looked into having a hysterectomy. She first found out she had two vaginas when she was 17 years old. “I first knew something was wrong when I was a teenager and I was bleeding more than I should. “The pain was intolerable and, while on my period, I couldn’t function. My doctor told me I had two wombs, two vaginas and two cervixes. “There were times when I had to wear adult nappies because tampons and pads weren’t enough. “The condition has affected my life severely. Relationships with my friends and boyfriends especially.” Nicci was put on hormone treatment, which proved ineffective and made her periods last up to four weeks. She is now happily married to a man called Andy and is ready to tell her story in the documentary. The World Health Organisation estimates around one in 3,000 women around the world are affected by the condition, which occurs when the uterus fails to fuse properly during development in the womb. It means a woman can be born with any combination of two wombs, two separate cervixes and sometimes, two vaginas. Source: The sun

The agony of losing a child: Kenyan model’s emotional story

The loss of a child either while pregnant, at birth, baby, kid or adult is the same emotional crippling pain for the mother and father. No parent every prays or prepares for this as Gods expectations is that our children will bury us and not the other way round. Mothers are the most affected as they are responsible for birthing and taking care of the children from age 0. They are more emotionally attached hence will be more affected if there is any case of loss. A Model Debbie Trixie has now opened up on the stressful process women undergo after losing her child - She brings out the pain that any woman who undergoes the process goes through when she knows the life she brought fourth is no more. MODEL Model Debbie Trixie Oyugi has left Kenyans in sorrow after narrating how she lost her child. Trixie Oyugi. The model, who is also a musician, shared how she was disconnected after losing her child, a thing that made many misjudge her, TUKO.co.ke has learnt. Read her story below: "Child loss changes so much in a woman. Whether it is a pregnancy or an infant. And woe unto you if you have multiple. No one can understand the emotions that you go through. One day you wake up so bright and show up, the next you look like a beaten up sack of potatoes. "Some days you meet a pregnant woman and you can’t help but admire, while on others you repel them asking God why he gave them a chance to bear life while you lost that chance. On other days the memories are too much. "You blame the doctors who caused the hormonal imbalance, the nurses who never had an inch of care, the people who could have done more, the deadbeat fiancee who went silent on you,” she wrote on her social media pages. "You start disconnecting with everything and everyone emotionally since you identify them with the loss. Suddenly, no one understands you, "You are so locked in a cacoon of self pity that you don’t realize you are sinking deep into a pit of depression, " Once you are at the bottom, you can’t reach out, it’s a weakness. Yes you are handling it. You grieve but you do not know how to, "But you have to hold yourself together. You cannot let this brokennes show. You are a woman, you have to be strong, "Society does not allow you to break. Its just a pregnancy, she wasn’t far into it anyway. It will not affect her so much. They say. The pressure to have it all together is so high "Well if you are or know someone, there is help. There is a support group that can help you through, " Women who were in that same position but have been able to reach that acceptance and healing stage. Reach out. You are not alone. "Above all, there is only one ultimate healer. Jesus! He is the only one that can fill that emptiness you feel, "Through his blood there is complete and perfect healing. Even on those things we don’t think he should be involved. "The balm of gilead, he is. He was able to heal the woman who bled for twelve years through her faith. How about you? "He seeks to have a relationship with you. At the end of the rope, his work begins. I have seen him at work. He creates masterpieces from broken pieces. #brokentobemadewhole.”