Difficulties in breastfeeding? Factors to consider ……..

Breastfeeding, although natural, is also a learned skill. And, like with any new skill, it can take some time to get the hang of. The most common breastfeeding problem mothers experience is sore nipples. Research has found that in the early days of breastfeeding almost 80% of mothers reported nipple pain and that by eight weeks this reduced to 20%. The main cause of sore nipples is suboptimal positioning and attachment. Indeed, it’s common to find breastfeeding difficult, especially in the early weeks. The good news is that most mothers, with timely and knowledgeable breastfeeding support, are able to overcome breastfeeding challenges and go on to reach their goals. Regardless of whether you’re a health professional working with breastfeeding mothers or a support person, it’s really important to choose our words carefully when talking to a mother who is struggling with breastfeeding. After all, what we say can have a huge impact on a mother’s breastfeeding self-efficacy and her self-esteem, both of which are important factors in helping mothers reach their goals. BRE FEE Here are important factors to consider when talking to a mother who is finding breastfeeding difficult: Understand That Breastfeeding Problems Are Experienced Very Differently A  problem such as cracked nipples can be experienced in very different ways by different mothers. While the amount of nipple damage that can be seen in different mothers may outwardly appear similar, how the pain is experienced by different mothers can be very different. For some mothers the pain may be insurmountable and for another woman the pain is insignificant. This is because the pain a woman experiences can be impacted by many factors such as level of social support, confidence in her ability to breastfeed, previous trauma, pain history, personal situation, anxieties/expectations etc.: Meet Her Where She’s At This is probably the most important aspect of supporting a mother who is struggling. It involves being patient, actively listening, providing empathy and unconditional positive regard. Even if you haven’t experienced the same problem, you can still try to put yourself in her shoes. She may be experiencing so many mixed emotions such as frustration, fear, sadness, grief etc. Meeting a mother where she is at can help her feel comfortable and confident that you are there to support her no matter what and you will help her work through the challenges she’s facing regardless of what that may involve. For some mothers experiencing problems, they may have the resolve to be able to tackle things head-on and never look back.

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Offer Information And Resources If a mother who is experiencing difficulty with breastfeeding asks for help, there are many things you could suggest. For example, you could help her find relevant articles, videos and mayerials that could help her during this period. Don’t Tell Her How Important Breastfeeding Is It’s not appropriate, and can be hurtful, to tell a mother who is really struggling   about how important breastfeeding is for her and her baby. This kind of pressure isn't useful to someone who is probably worried about how the next breastfeed is going to go, let alone her breastfeeding relationship. Remind Her How Awesome She Is Struggling with breastfeeding is not only often painful physically but can also be a very emotionally painful experience. It can really help to boost a mother’s confidence by reminding her that she is doing an incredible job and she is the best mother her baby could ask for. 550_102188615  Do Not Suggest Weaning A mother experiencing difficulties doesn't want it to be suggested to her to wean and formula feed. This undermines all the time and effort she has put in so far and having this suggesting can be highly annoying. Rather, provide her with support, in all the ways suggested above. In that way you’re providing her with a safe environment for her to work out what’s going to work best for her. She doesn’t need you making her mind up for her. Of course, in the situation there is a medical need for formula, a health professional should inform a mother of this, not you.  Let Go Of Your Own Ideologies It’s important to remember that what you would do in a certain situation is irrelevant when it comes to helping a mother work out what might be best given her individual situation. While breastfeeding is important from a public health perspective, for some mothers, weaning or not breastfeeding may be what’s best given their individual circumstances. All mothers need to be supported regardless of how they choose to feed their babies. So, remember, how you support a mother who is experiencing breastfeeding challenges can have a significant impact.


Things NOT to Say to a Woman Who’s Had a Miscarriage

If you look at the statistics for miscarriage, the numbers are startling: According to statistical reports, approximately 10 to 15 percent of known pregnancies end in loss before the 13th week. Since pregnancy loss is so common, you would think there would be more understanding around how to help and offer comfort to those going through it. That's generally not the case, though, because the subject is so taboo. Many of us are made to feel we shouldn't talk about it, or that it's no big deal—when in reality, grieving and seeking support are very important aspects of the process. If you know someone who has had a miscarriage and you want to offer words of comfort, here is a list of phrases you should avoid saying.

  1. "It wasn't a real baby."
For so many women, bonding with their baby-to-be happens the moment they learn they are pregnant. Even if she was only pregnant for a short time, that baby was real, plans and dreams were formed in the family's heads, and life had already changed. It doesn't matter how far along she was in her pregnancy; to her, that baby was much more than its gestational stage. pregnancy-after-miscarriage
  1. "At least you weren't further along."
It's true that the further along you are in your pregnancy, the more complications can happen during the loss—but this phrase tries to diminish the pain felt, perpetuating the idea that a baby lost in the first trimester doesn't necessitate any grief. The pain—both physical and emotional—is very real, even in the very early stages.
  1. "It wasn't meant to be."
When hearing this phrase during the grief of loss, it can compound feelings that you've done something wrong or that the person believes you're not fit to be a parent.
  1. "Well, at least you can get pregnant."
There are a lot of women in the world who struggle to get pregnant, and that struggle comes with its own pain and grief, but rarely is "pregnancy" the end goal for any woman. Getting pregnant is the first step to parenthood, and a woman who has miscarried is also robbed of that seemingly natural right. Plus, there's really no reason to compare one woman's struggles to another's. 1100_healing_after_miscarriage
  1. "This happens to everyone; it's not a big deal."
For many women seeking support, this phrase is heartbreaking. Miscarriage is certainly common, but that doesn't negate the need for support, compassion, and healthy grieving that comes with loss.
  1. "Maybe you should have/shouldn't have..."
It can be very hard on a mum's heart when she finds out her baby is gone, and she may instinctively blame herself, wondering what she did to cause this and why her body failed her. Hearing those statements from someone who is supposed to be supportive is the last thing she needs.
  1. "You'll be fine in a few days."
For some women, the grieving period is very short after a miscarriage, and that's totally okay. However, for others, the grief can last a while and it can be complicated by several other factors—so telling someone they're going to be fine in a few days, whether that comes from a friend or doctor, is very misleading and dismissive. The physical side effects can last several weeks, and she may need even longer to work through the emotional aspects of loss.
  1. "Be grateful for what you have."
When someone is in pain, most of us know that telling them to "suck it up" isn't exactly helpful. This phrase, often said to women who have older children and are grieving their miscarriage, is the same sentiment, just dressed up a little differently. Regardless of the number of children you've already given birth to, it's perfectly normal to grieve after losing a pregnancy. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. When you visit a woman who just had a miscarriage, do more listening than talking.  


When do you give your baby water to drink?

Despite what well-meaning family members might say, experts now know that until your baby starts eating solid foods, infants get all the water they need from breast milk or formula. Both breast milk and/or formula will keep your infant plenty hydrated, even on hot days when you might be wondering if you should offer your baby a cool sip of water. The only exception to the rule about not giving water to a baby this age is if the infant is sick and is losing fluids due to diarrhea or vomiting. (But ask your pediatrician about this first.). Why is this so? afe47c92d4daa7dcc3dc05167059afc2 Giving water to a baby can actually harm her. Unless she’s very sick, a baby who satisfies her appetite (and her need to suck) with bottles of water will miss out on the nutrition she needs from her feedings. If done regularly, this can cause weight loss, and in the case of breast-fed babies, it can decrease your breast-milk supply. Giving water to a baby in large amounts can even lead to oral water intoxication, a condition in which the electrolytes (such as sodium) in a baby’s bloodstream become diluted, inhibiting normal bodily functions and leading to dangerous problems such as low body temperature or seizures. baby1(6) Just say no to juice too. Not only will it fill up your infant’s tiny tummy (leaving no room for milk), but also the sugar in juice can cause stomach cramping and diarrhea in young babies. When can you start giving water to a baby, then? Most experts suggest that you wait until you’ve started feeding solids to your baby, when she’s between four and six months old. At that point, you can talk with your pediatrician about how much water to serve up to your little one. As for juice, hold off until your baby is six months old, and then, that you limit the quantity to four times a day. To make sure you don’t overdo it on juice (and that you don’t decay your tot’s few teeth), dilute it with water, and avoid giving the sweet stuff to your baby right before bed. But for now, though, just stick with breast milk or formula.    Symptoms of Water intoxication in infants.

  • changes in mental status, i.e. irritability, confusion or drowsiness
  • low body temperature, usually 97 degrees or less
  • facial swelling or puffiness
  • seizures
A great way to get baby into using a sippy cup is to fill it with water and ice. The ice will make noise as it sloshes about and pique baby’s curiosity. The water is better than juice and giving water over juice will instill a love of this healthy and necessary liquid!  


Men should support wives on exclusive breastfeeding, immunization

The United Nations Children’s Emergency Fund, UNICEF, in collaboration with the National Orientation Agency, NOA, Abia State, has urged men to support their wives to imbibe essential health practices to promote healthy living in their families. The agency outlined such essential health practices as exclusive breastfeeding, immunization, hand washing, malaria and HIV/AIDS prevention, among others. Addressing community leaders from the six council areas of Abia South zone, on essential health practices, Abia State Director of NOA, Dr. Ngozi Uduma, said except men become involved in the issue of essential health practices particularly exclusive breasfeeding, the nation would continue to record low compliance rate in the area. ya-mama-ta-bamba-image-1 Exclusive breast feeding She said, “When a man stands to talk about exclusive breast feeding, immunization, hand washing and other health practices in the home, it means he has an understanding of the issues at stake and the benefits. When a man talks about exclusive breast feeding to women, it makes a great impact. Except men become involved in the issue of these essential health practices in the home, we may not make progress. Exclusive breastfeeding and immunization is about the baby and the mother but you need the support of the father for it to work well. “When you talk of essential family practices, the target has always been children and women, but the wellbeing of women and children translate to healthy living in the family. I was glad to hear during the discussions that a man visited a women meeting to disseminate information on exclusive breast feeding. Men have a big great role to play in the realization of these essential health practices in the family.” vllkyt7ergcbgdtl8.91523f00 Uduma described the event as a review of the previous meeting of men, youth and women community leaders in the zone where information was disseminated to them on what they can do to encourage essential health practices in their areas. The community leaders were also required to step down the information on these essential health practices to their people and ensure that action plans were developed to improve areas of low compliance. “Last year, we gathered community leaders from 225 communities in Abia state; 75 communities from each of the 3 senatorial zones. We decided to engage these men, women and youth leaders because they can influence people in their communities. They were expected to step down information to their communities to ensure that action plans that had been generated at the forum on essential family practices were implemented at the community level. “ We started by disseminating information to them on essential family practices such as prevention of malaria, HIV/AIDS, immunization, exclusive breastfeeding, hand washing, etc. The idea was that if a community is low on environmental sanitation or immunization, the leaders will decide on an action plan to improve the situation. We have what each community was able to do since the first meeting.” Earlier, Emma Echewodo from Obingwa council had explained how he lectured women on exclusive breast feeding and initiated communal efforts to build a health centre in his community while Margaret Nwobilo of Ancient Ohazu community in Aba South council stated that she mobilized a cooperative society to raise funds for some residents to erect toilet facilities in their homes.


Nigerian lady dies mysteriously after giving birth

Fatalities during but unrelated to a pregnancy are termed accidental, incidental, or nonobstetrical maternal deaths. The most common causes are postpartumbleeding (15%), complications from unsafe abortion (15%), hypertensive disorders ofpregnancy (10%), postpartum infections (8%), and obstructed labour (6%).
The pictures of a pregnant beautiful Igbo lady have gone viral on the internet, as she was reported dead while trying to give birth to her bouncing baby boy. FAB 2 FAB Late Chiamaka and her baby This news was made viral as on her friends, Engr Aroh Leonard Chukwujekwu, he posted several pictures of her with the caption:“RIP... ? Am Speechless Can't hold back my tears when I heard the sad news of ur departure. Chiamaka Glory de Freitas a lady full of life. Please come nurture your baby boy, he needs you. OMG! The tut alone is making me sick RIP girlfriend.” Late Chiamaka and her hubby during her pregnancy photoshoot Following the post of Leonard, one could see that Chiamaka got married to a ‘white man’ and they were happy together. This is so sad as we dont know the exact cause of this, we pray that God will comfort the husband and rest of the family.

Why do women die in childbirth in low-income countries?

At Maternity Worldwide it is recognised that the underlying and contributory causes of deaths in pregnancy and childbirth are complex and interlinked. Women and girls often have very low status in low-income countries and empowerment and education are central to enabling them to make their own decisions and allowing them to access maternal health and family planning services.

The risk of dying increases with the number of pregnancies a woman has in her lifetime. Risk is particularly high for those with four or more children.

Maternal haemorrhage is the third most likely cause of death for women in low income countries (World Health Organisation, 2008)

Figures from the World Health Organisation (2008) show that maternal haemorrhage was the third most likely cause of death for women in low income countries (behind only HIV/AIDS and tuberculosis), accounting for 58,000 deaths. Unsafe abortions were the 5th most likely cause, resulting in a further 24,000 deaths.

The direct and measurable causes of deaths in pregnancy and childbirth are mainly:

  • Severe bleeding (mostly after childbirth)
  • Infections
  • High blood pressure during pregnancy (pre-eclampsia and eclampsia)
  • Unsafe abortions

These account for 80% of deaths.

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Woman, 28, reveals six pack just 9 days after childbirth

A lot of women take their time when it comes to shedding their baby weight after childbirth. What is most important at this time is the health of the new baby of mother. A good and healthy lifestyle is always the first option for both baby and mother during pregnancy and after childbirth. A fitness enthusiast has shared photographs of herself with a fully regained six pack just nine days after childbirth - Her photos have impressed her over two million followers on Instagram - She credits her incredible transformation to eating natural foods and maintaining a healthy diet. 28-year-old Maria Arias welcomed her baby daughter on February 28 through natural birth, which makes her achievement even more impressive. lady 2 Maria Arias during her pregnancy and just nine days after childbirth. She shared the pictures of her incredible transformation on Thursday to her over two million Instagram followers, who expressed amazement at how she could achieve such a feat in such a short postpartum time. lady 3 Maria before (left) and during (right) her pregnancy Maria credits her fitness to her strictly eating natural foods, maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. She says: "I have made the choice to stay away from harmful and artificial ingredients, as well as processed foods because I have a princess to nurture and I love her so much So now you know the secret!

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Sad! Mother cuddles her dead baby for 3 days

Becki Wilson's son Carter-James passed away at Wythenshawe Hospital on February 28, 2016 but she was able to spend three days with him Becki Wilson, a 27-year-old mother from Stockport, lost her child 16 hours after birth. But she was not ready to let go. She spent three days with the diseased child in cuddle cot. And now, based on her experience, she is out to help women who have lost their babies but still want to stay with them a little longer. baby 2 A 'cuddle cot' is a blanket that is put inside the cot to keep the baby at an appropriate temperature. Becki wants to give other bereaved mothers the same experience Wilson’s son, Carter James, died at Wythenshawe Hospital. She stayed with him for three days. She, however, had to use cuddle cot, a special blanket that is used to keep the baby at an appropriate temperature. baby 3 “Thanks to cuddle cot, I was able to spend three days with my son. I got to dress him, wash him and stare at him for hours like any other mother would. It is an experience that I will never forget,” says Wilson. She adds that being able to do that made a dramatic difference. In her own admission, she felt like she was able to be a mum. baby 6 Wilson had reportedly been informed by doctors that she was likely to lose her baby. The medics suggested that she terminates the pregnancy at 25 weeks, but she refused. She says she could feel the baby kicking in her womb, and therefore wanted to give him the best chance possible. Unfortunately, James died shortly after he was born. As a consolation to the heartbroken mum, the diseased baby was wrapped with cuddle cot so that he could last longer and as per the mother’s wishes. The mother later discovered that the cuddle cots were in short supply at the hospital, and she was very lucky to find one. “It broke my heart, so I decided to launch a fundraising appeal to help the hospital buy more cots so that grieving mothers would not go without them,” says Wilson. She is hoping to support mothers who lose their babies after birth by giving them same comforting experience she had when she lost her own baby.