Fertility issues are very sensitive, especially for women. The sad reality is that many people delay getting fertility help for far too long, even though they know that they have a problem. You know that something's not right, and it shouldn't be taking this long.
After all, everyone else seems to be popping babies out at will, so just give it a bit more time. Couples go through several stages; denial, followed by blame and resentment, before finally getting fertility treatment.
Here are some indications that they might need some help with their fertility.
Most women are tired of hearing it, but it's just a biological fact and an infuriating one perhaps. The female eggs deteriorate after the age of 35. But please, do not panic because, as every expert will tell you; it only takes one good egg to make a baby. However if you're unmarried, a good option is to freeze your eggs.
- Sex isn't what it used to be
At this point, sex is called 'trying' for a baby. And trying is what it is. The randy, carefree couple you once were has gone. Now sex, which used to be about spontaneity and fun and intimacy, now takes place for a very obvious reason. As each month shows up a no-show on the pregnancy testing stick, the sex becomes more scheduled.
Not just the week but the day and even the hour as you become a slave to the fertility monitor. Soon neither of you really wants to do it. Before you know it, excuses start being exchanged that soon turn into arguments about whose 'fault' it is and how everyone else is having babies and how you're getting older and time is running out.
- You're spending far too much on pregnancy tests
This becomes almost an addiction. You start blaming the actual brand of pregnancy test and start spending your money on the most expensive ones. You start holding them up in different lights – by the window at the back of the house that gets the morning sun, by the bright bathroom bulb - just in case there's the faintest hint of a line that you might have missed. But save your emotions and your money because all brands of pregnancy test kits that they all do the same thing.
- If your mother had any fertility issues
It's a good idea to have a conversation with your mother about how easy it was for her to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Of course not everything is genetic but some gynaecological issues have a strong familial link, e.g. endometriosis and polycystic ovaries. Both can really affect your fertility and even make IVF more complicated so it is very useful to find out at an early stage.
- You start to be obsessed about women with babies
Around the stage, you might start avoiding any pregnant friends and particular friends with babies so you won't think about it. It might make you just feel emptiness, a hollow feeling of sadness, in extreme cases, you might think it is the witches and wizards of you're village that are "following" you. So, again, don't let it take over you.
If you're starting to feel like this, please make that appointment with the doctor.
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