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Teacher shot dead by husband in front of pupils

A man stormed a school in Mpumalanga, South Africa and shot dead his wife while she was teaching her Grade 2 pupils on Monday morning. The man later turned the gun on himself.

Kate Chiloane, 30, was shot and killed at about 8am at Sediba-Sa-Thuto Primary School near Bushbuckridge.

 "The teacher was in class, teaching at the time of the incident," said provincial department of education spokesman Jasper Zwane.

Zwane said teachers and pupils were currently receiving psychological counselling.

Colonel Mtsholi Bhembe, who confirmed the incident said:

"A 40-year-old man, believed to be the husband of a 30-year-old female teacher, shot and killed her in the schoolyard. According to information at police disposal, however, the teacher was on her way to the classroom when she was accosted by the suspect."

He said the man was later found with a bullet wound in the head at his home. Bhembe said two dockets, one for murder and an inquest, were opened.

"The department is currently monitoring the situation at the school and has also deployed officials from the wellness section to render counselling services to the learners, educators and some family members who were affected.

"We are deeply saddened by this tragic incident and hereby send our condolences to the family of the deceased and those affected by her passing," said education MEC Reginah Mhaule in a statement.

Chiloane had been with the school for a year.

She had taken to Facebook at 8.20pm the previous day and posted a picture bearing the words:

"Accept your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. And face your future without fear."

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How to get your dating confidence back

One of the hardest things about dating is that your confidence can often take a beating if you let it. There is usually a fair amount of rejection flying around which can make you feel bad about yourself. At the same time, people with loads of confidence are often considered the most attractive and sexiest people. So with this in mind, here are some steps for getting your dating confidence back.

  1. Let bad experiences go
You’ve had some bad experiences in the past with online dating, right? To be honest, most people have. But it’s what you do next that counts. You can either let those bad dating experiences go on to define your dating journey or you can shrug them off, put them behind you and move on with a spring in your step and a positive attitude. Black-couple-at-home-506x330
  1. Remind yourself why you’re so brilliant
Sometimes we need to take time out of our busy lives to remind ourselves why we’re so brilliant/cool/funny/attractive etc. Spend 10 minutes writing down all the things that make you uniquely, wonderfully you. Focus on the things you’re proud of and happy with, the things that you want to celebrate about being you. Take note of any areas in your life where you’re really struggling to feel like this. If you feel over weight and out of sorts, then take the decision that you want to improve this. Don’t overthink it, just take action. You want to get to a place where you feel brilliant about yourself. cfd
  1. Push yourself
The quickest road to growing in confidence is to push yourself out of that comfort zone you’re living in. Life is nice and easy when you don’t push yourself but it doesn’t give you that incredible buzz that you get when you do. That feeling is so good! Pushing out your comfort zone will probably scare the hell out of you… but then the feeling when you succeed is fantastic. It’s addictive. Try and commit to doing something once a day, week or month that pushes you and you’ll find it boosts your confidence to  whole, new levels of brilliance. confide
  1. Back yourself 100%
Another quick way to build confidence is to back yourself 100%. This means every time you make a decision, you know you’re doing the right thing.  Don’t look to others for validation, just know that you’ll do the right thing for you. Your confidence will soar once you know you can rely on yourself and you don’t need to worry about what others think of you. You know you’re brilliant and lovely and that’s what counts. When you next get rejected, you won’t even entertain the thought that it’s your fault – you’ll just know that you weren’t right for them but that’s OK. You’ll be right for the right one. It only takes one, after all.
  1. Fake it till you make it
Any article focusing on boosting confidence, should most definitely include this little gem – fake it til you make it. You don’t need to be at the top of your game before you go on a date, you can just give the illusion that you are. It amounts to the same thing as far as your date is concerned. They will see the you that you’re projecting so you might as well make sure you’re projecting the best version of you, whether it’s real or not. The secret is, if you do it enough times, it becomes real. The only way to get better and more confident on dates is to just go out on dates. Keep putting yourself out there. As you go on more dates, you’ll find you start to take it in your stride, you’ll become an old-hand at it. Your confidence will start to soar.

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Scorned woman smashes up cheating husband’s BMW 

A woman angry that her husband cheated on her, got revenge by smashing his BMW with a sledgehammer and also threatened to set him on fire.

Dramatic footage shows the scorned woman battering the side of the vehicle after finding out about her partner's alleged affair. She shattered the front and back windscreen of the black car with the weapon then threatened to "burn" her " love-rat " husband of ten years in his trailer. Holding the weapon, the woman shouted: "I've been married ten year, I've never broke nothing my whole life. I can assure you that no one is going to have you when I'm finished with you. "I never broke a cup, a plate, in my life." She referred to her husband as Michael as she hit the windscreen and revealed that he was with the woman on Tuesday night. She said: "You won't be going home with this car. That's what cost you for your one night. "I hope to almighty Jesus it was all worth it - every bit of it."  

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Your first romantic holiday with your partner

Your first romantic holiday with a new partner will probably be the first time you spend a prolonged period of time together. However, you need not feel intimated by this, as embarking on a romantic holiday with your new love can help build and strengthen your relationship as a whole. Holidays are a good opportunity for couples to take stock and reassess their relationship back home. Discussing your everyday life from a distance, particularly while relaxed on holiday, enables a constructive conversation and ultimately assists in building a strong foundation between you. Romantic breaks then, are not only a chance for you to reconnect as a couple, but can be used as an opportunity to enhance your relationship when you're back in your everyday lives. Here are 10 Dos and 5 Don’ts to ensure your first romantic holiday is a success. date s The 10 Dos

  1. Do keep it short – As this is your first holiday away together, treat it as a test for any longer future trips. So, don’t book that round the world trip together just yet. Try a long weekend break first.
  1. Do try to build the trip around both of your interests – Make sure you spend time planning the holiday together. This includes where you’ll be staying and what activities you’d like to do whilst there. Then you’ll both understand beforehand what the other wants from trip.
  1. Do pick a holiday destination neither of you have visited before – This way you’ll be able to create new memories collectively by discovering the place together. (Definitely don’t go to somewhere you’ve been to with a previous partner!)
  1. Do try to avoid stressful situations – This means arriving at the airport early, planning your route to your destination, making sure you have the right currency… Just don’t leave everything to the last minute.
  1. Do make the flight romantic – Settle into the holiday mood before you’ve even landed. Order a bottle of wine, share a blanket and cuddle up to each other.
  1. Do make spontaneous romantic gestures – Show your partner that you care by surprising them with breakfast in bed or running them a bath after a long day at the beach. Remember, it’s the little everyday signs of love that count.
  1. Do try new things – Be adventurous. Try out activities you wouldn’t have the chance to at home. Even if it’s just tasting a local dish for the first time, by doing something you and your partner haven’t tried before, you’ll both bond over the new experience, bringing you closer together and providing an exciting joint memory.
  1. Do spend a little time apart – Although holidays are a great chance for the two of you to connect, it is important that you don’t forget to look after yourself. Devote a little time to an activity that you enjoy independently. Then when you next see one another, you’ll feel refreshed and excited to spend time together again.
  1. Do pamper yourselves – Who doesn’t like to be pampered on a holiday? The two of you can indulge in a soothing couple’s body massage after a long day sight-seeing. Treat yourselves to a rejuvenating and romantic experience!
  1. Do buy a special souvenir – Pay attention to what your partner looks at and likes whilst shopping on holiday, then if you can, secretly buy it and surprise them with your gift once you’ve returned home. Then, whenever they look at it they will be reminded of your romantic holiday together.
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  1. Don’t book a holiday together to fix your relationship – If your relationship is on its last legs, a holiday is not going to help. You may have fun whilst you’re away, but you’ll return home to all the same problems. Try to work through your issues at home first before taking a trip together.
  1. Don’t forget to pack medicines – Don’t let a nasty headache ruin the romance. It’s best to be over-prepared in this situation. So, pack plenty of the essential holiday medicines to keep the trip running smoothly.
  1. Don’t try to see everything – Don’t waste time moving from one tourist hotspot to the next. Spend the time that would have been lost to travelling, by relaxing and bonding with your partner.
  1. Don’t spend your holiday on your phone – Don’t miss precious moments with your partner, by constantly checking your phone. Of course, it’s understandable you may need to look at your emails from time to time, but you’re on holiday, whatever is happening at home can wait.
  1. Don’t let the occasional setbacks put you off – When planning a romantic holiday, couples tend to set their expectations too high. In order to avoid disappointment, it helps to be realistic – there will inevitably be struggles and disagreements and that’s completely natural. It’s bound to happen if you’re spending such concentrated time with someone. Undoubtedly, you’ll kiss and make up in no time.
Are you planning your first romantic holiday? Did you find these suggestions helpful? Do you have any further tips for a romatic holiday? Then let us know in the comments section below.

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The bitter truth about relationships

  There is no magical land where everyone gets along constantly. Where clarity arrives just in time to prevent people from saying and doing nasty things. Where couples are protected from each other and from the world at large. Where no one gets hurt or experiences pain. But that’s fine! You don’t need a fairytale ending, let alone a fairytale life. What you need is a partner who gets it — who understands that it’s going to be tough and who’s prepared to dive in anyway. Someone who will wade through Life’s darkest, ugliest bits right alongside you and admit that they were a wrong that time they said that thing they only half-meant, in retrospect. cupilll o There will be relationship pains no matter how much you adore each other — no matter how much money you have or how successful you are professionally or how much fun you have on weekday nights, sitting at home doing nothing. There will be rocky patches no matter how often you laugh together or how many sacrifices you make on each other’s behalf or how many milestones you reach as a couple. There will be tough times when you least expect them, and predicaments you can actually see charging at you from miles away. Love isn’t always fun. It doesn’t matter how compatible you are, how often you make each other smile, or how wowed you are by each other’s general awesomeness. Each and every single one of us is imperfect as a human sometimes, and the world is a place where things can go horribly wrong, no matter how good of a person you are. These truths will impact your relationship. There will be days when you wake up feeling wretched for no particular reason and the kind, compassionate, motivated individual who usually stares back at you in the mirror is replaced by a grumpy, bitter, intolerant shadow incapable of being a loving partner. On other occasions, the world will catapult some unwelcome crisis in your direction and the challenge of handling it will overwhelm you to the point that you just can’t deal and your relationship will suffer as a result. LOVVVE You and your significant otherwill fail each other sometimes. You will fail to understand each other and you will drive each other insane and you will reduce yourselves to behavior that later abhors you. You will treat each other like nothing and it might take hours or even days or months before you’re able to see clearly — before you can reach deep inside yourselves and admit that you were being unreasonable and finally apologize. The thing is, the pain you cause each other is rooted in beauty on some level. Because the more you love someone, the more vulnerable you are to them. The harder you fall for someone, the more you empower them to make you miserable. The more you treasure that truly special connection, the more likely you are to ache when it seems to unravel. The person you promise forever to will break your heart in small but meaningful ways again and again and again. But around the corner from every heartbreak is renewed strength — as long as you’re committed to learning from each and every misstep. If you take the time to assess what went wrong — to figure out why that massive quarrel was actually inevitable — and do the work to make things right, you will be more than okay. If you trust that every mishap is an opportunity to move forward with yet more knowledge — about yourself, your significant other, and life in general — you will grow stronger, wiser, and more powerful as a couple. So expect relationship troubles. The more prepared you are for the reality that you will experience problems, the better positioned you will be to fight for your relationship’s survival.

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Man sues ex-girlfriend after break up

All couples face problems in their relationship, but not all problems lead to breaking up.

Coping with a breakup or divorce can be intensely painful and should be handled with maturity. Some break up can also be a very expensive and emotional one especially when a $48k engagement ring is involved.

A man from Manhattan, New York, Joe DiTomaso, 42, is suing his ex-girlfriend, Jamie Cohen for refusing to return his $48,300 engagement ring and his dog after they broke up, following two years of courtship.

Joe, who works as a tech exec in his suit on Monday, said he bought her the expensive jewelry and dropped another $12,000 on furniture after two years of dating, but when things went wrong in June 2015, Cohen took his dog and refused to return his ring.
DiTomaso, CEO of a hotel search engine, All the Rooms- has only seen his dog once, and that was in December 2015, the Manhattan Supreme Court suit read.
“Blu was never seen by Mr. DiTomaso again,” according to the suit.
“To date, none of DiTomaso’s furniture, furnishings and possessions have been returned,” the suit reads.
“DiTomaso owned his dog named Blu prior to defendant moving in with him,” his court papers say. “DiTomaso is entitled to immediate return of his dog.”
The lawsuit seeks return of the ring, furniture and dog, as well as damages of about $65,000.
Source: NYDailyNews

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The consequences of jealousy, anger and rage

Jealousy and anger are the two deadliest emotions that should always be controlled.
Man who ripped out girlfriend's intestines after she mentioned her ex's name during sex has been sentenced to life imprisonment
The Florida man who ripped out his girlfriend's intestines after she screamed her ex-husband's name during a session of drunken intimacy, has been sentenced to life imprisonment.
Recall that Fidel Lopez, 26, in June offered to plead guilty to the charges in the hope of securing a 50-year jail sentence, while prosecutors rejected the offer and settled on life sentence for the brutal murder of his girlfriend, 31-year-old Maria Nemeth in 2015.
A judge on Thursday handed down the life sentence for the 26-year old without a possibility of parole, CBS Miami reported.
Ahead of his sentencing, Lopez apologized to Nemeth’s family through a translator, according to the news station.
“Today, I’m happy to fulfill this conviction… I know what I did has to be paid for and I agree… I pay with my life for the life I took,” he said. “To Maria’s family, I ask forgiveness.”
Nemeth’s father struggled to put the feelings of his loss into words on Thursday.
“If I had to summarize the life of Maria, it would be very difficult to express it in a few line,” he said through a translator. “I just want to tell you all that she was and will continue to be a model of affection, effort, perseverance, and love of humanity.

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Important things to do immediately after a break up 

  There are a lot of things interesting about Millennials. One of the things  is the  common lack of understanding about who they are and what they want. Maybe it's just being in your 20s, but literally everything is so confusing. The most confusing thing I've stumbled upon though thus far (outside of the all-consuming “What the hell am I doing with my life?”question) is how to maintain your independence in a relationship. I'm sure you can attribute some of it to age and lack of experience, but I think a lot of it has to do with the fear of being alone. That fear is universal. It's hard when “I” becomes “we.” It's even harder when it all happens so fast you feel like all you did was blink and three months have passed by. It's hard when your relationship becomes all-consuming and you start questioning who this person really is, what his real intentions are. It's even harder when all you want to do is be with that person because you feel him slipping away, and you feel like your presence will make your him stay. BREAK UP You lose yourself in the process. Then, when it comes down to deciding whether or not this relationship is worth fighting for, you're the one begging him to just keep trying. But instead, he walks away. Even worse, he makes it seem like a piece of cake, like you never even mattered in the first place. When the person you love walks away from you, you're not just picking up the pieces; you're finding them all over again. Because whether you like it or not, you're different. You aren't the same person you were before you met him, and you're never going to be that person again. So, how the hell do you get back to being yourself after a breakup? Here are the seven breakup commandments:

  1. Acknowledge, feel and accept your emotions.
Burying your emotions and refusing to acknowledge them is the worst thing you can do in such a vulnerable situation. Losing someone is confusing, heartbreaking and sometimes it even feels earth-shattering. But you're not doing yourself any favors by trying to be the tough guy and just “get over it.” That's not how relationships work. That's not how love works. Acknowledge your emotions, feel them fully and accept them for what they are. Do not judge them.
  1. If you wouldn't say it to your best friend, don't say it to yourself.
Now is the time to start putting the love you had invested in the person who walked away from you toward yourself. That means being your own best friend. Don't question why he left you, don't blame yourself for a failed relationship and do not question your worth. He quit, not you. coleen-column
  1. Surround yourself with great people.
Chances are you won't want to spend a lot of time alone right after a breakup. It reminds you of what you lost (or what you think you lost). Spend your time with your best friends: enjoy their company, laugh and be social. Your best friends are your rocks. They're going to support you on the good days, the bad days and every day in between.
  1. Read a good book.
When you don't stand a chance against taking your mind off of the breakup, dive into a good book. If it has any kind of emphasis on finding yourself or coming back from a downfall, even better. It helps to know that life kicks other people in the ass, too. Often times, they were dealt a hand that's a hell of a lot worse than any breakup you could ever go through. Reading puts life into perspective.
  1. Take care of yourself
Eat healthy, exercise and be mindful. This one can be exceptionally hard and may take some time to come around to, but it's vital. Taking care of your body and your mind — your physical and mental health — is key when it comes to loving yourself. Not to mention, endorphins make the pain of heartbreak a little more bearable.
  1. Try something new to challenge yourself
When you're picking up the pieces and trying to find yourself again, you can use it as an opportunity to better yourself. This something new doesn't have to be huge; It can be something as small as singing. Doing something  you wouldn't have done before your relationship can feel like a win. Winning is fun.
  1. Love yourself
Loving yourself sounds corny. But it's the hardest thing on this list. Some people who literally look themselves in the mirror every day and tell their reflections they love themselves. These people are not crazy; they're smart. They know that when you love yourself, the people around you and the life you lead, life loves you right back. If the positive energy is out there, you will absorb it. Soon, the heartbreak that consumed you will feel like a distant memory. The love you had for yourself pre-relationship will return stronger than ever. You will realize that while you may have been lost for a short time there, you are not the loser in this breakup. You did not lose. You found the greatest love of all: Self-love.

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Soni, Betty Irabor Celebrate 34th Wedding Anniversary

Who says you can find couples who have are happily married for over 25, 30, 40 years  especially these days with the high rate of divorce and separation. Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of Genevieve magazine, Betty Irabor and her husband, Soni Irabor are celebrating their 34th wedding anniversary today. The couple got married on 29th July 1983 and are blessed with two children. Happy Anniversary to them!
 
 

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Easy steps to forgiving your partner

Forgiveness is a gift, not a given. When we have forgiveness in marriage, we are giving up our “right” to hold something against our husband. Some people find it very difficult to forgive their spouses. Are you one of them? Learn how to forgive in this easy ways;

  1. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.
We may not feel like forgiving.  We may want to harbor the anger and hurt and make him pay for what he has done.  But, once you decide you want to grant forgiveness, you can begin to work through those feelings.
  1. Share your hurt.
After your husband has apologized and asked for forgiveness, you need to talk about the matter before you move on.  It might be uncomfortable, but you need to share how you feel. Don’t point a finger; just share how you feel so he’ll understand the depth of your hurt.  Make sure you feel heard before you move on. relationship 000000
  1. Plan for change.
The goal here is not to punish with requirements, but to set up guidelines that you both agree to.  That way, there will be fewer gray areas that can lead to disappointment.
  1. Stop remembering
Do not replay your husband’s infraction over and over again in your mind.  When your mind starts to wander and you begin to dwell on the incident and the hurt it caused you, tell yourself to stop.  It’s one thing to need to talk to someone like a pastor or a counselor about your pain so you can move past it, but it’s another when you keep inflicting the pain on yourself by dwelling on the hurt.  Deciding to truly forgive your husband is re-committing to your relationship.  Don’t sabotage that recommitment by focusing on the negative.
  1. Give yourself time.
Just deciding to forgive will not strip away all of the pain.  It’s natural to feel raw and disappointed.  Go back to step 4 when you need to, and keep choosing to forgive.