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Simple and easy ways to enjoy being single

Being single is awesome. Whether you just got out of a relationship or have lived the single life for a prolonged period of time, being single has its advantages and disadvantages. But no matter what you’re feeling on your single status, one thing remains true: you are free. And if you are like most people, it means that you will, one day, find love again. Being single is, overall, a great experience. Not only does it let you have a little fun, but it can be a great way to date the number one person in your life: yourself. Here are a couple of ways to make the single life the best life.

  1. Be spontaneous.
Without a significant other, you don’t need to run things by another person before you jump in. Suppose you want to get a pet: no one is stopping you! (Except maybe your landlord, neighbours or flatmates) The point is, you can make snap decisions and enjoy them, because there’s no one there to consult. The only feelings that matter are your own! images (70)
  1. Travel.
Traveling alone can be an incredibly rewarding experience. Go someplace you’ve never been, either solo or with a bunch of pals. You’ll be amazed at how much fun you can have. Leave relationship traveling for another time. After all, traveling as a couple is what honeymoons are for!
  1. Spend time with those who matter most.
Relationships come and go, but friends and family are often around for much, much longer. Your singleness is an opportunity to spend quality time with those in your life that matter the most to you. You don’t want to look back and regret not having spent enough time with someone when you had the chance.
  1. Read.
Reading is one of the best ways to entertain and educate yourself at the same time. We all give the same excuse: I wish I had the time to read more. Well, without a special someone in your life chewing up time, spend it instead with a good book. Better yet, some of the best relationships are the ones that you will forge with fictional characters.
  1. Work hard and play hard.
Live it up now that you have the time and energy to do so. Don’t let anything stop you from tackling everything head on, whether that’s in school, at work, or in play. Start now!
  1. Reflect.
In between all that working and playing, make sure you reflect on your choices and yourself. Are you happy with what you did today? Is there room for improvement? Don’t criticize too harshly, but remember to take the time to think about yourself and your life. It’s important to let these reflections guide you.
  1. Take up a new hobby.
Is there something you’ve been dying to try recently, like sewing, making wigs or knitting? Stop stalling and do it already! The single life is all about you, so try something new and really sink your teeth into it.
  1. Stay out and sleep in.
No one waiting at home means no getting home by a certain time at night (or morning…). So stay out as late as you want and don’t come home until you’re ready.
  1. Learn how to be alone.
While singleness is great, it can be hard sometimes to be alone with your thoughts so often. However, learning how to be alone is important. Not only will it let you be comfortable in most situations, but you can prove to yourself that you’re independent and don’t need to rely on a significant other to be happy.
  1. Find your “thing.”
Everybody has something that they really enjoy doing. Whatever that is for you, this is your chance to focus on it as much as you want. It’s yours, and you don’t have to share it with anybody.
  1. Say yes.
Take advantage of opportunities that come your way by saying yes! No matter how big or how small, commit to saying yes whenever you can. It will open up more doors than you think!
  1. Figure out who you are.
This is your opportunity to get to know yourself and really connect with your values and thoughts. Use this chance to assess these. Later, you’ll need this information about yourself when new love interests enter your life.
  1. Get out there.
Really put yourself out there. It doesn’t matter how or in what way, but use this time to really make yourself open to possibilities and up for anything. There’s no time like the single present. You can do whatever you want, so figure out what that is and go do it! Take advantage of this time and make it count. The best way to enjoy being single is by…being single. Don’t go looking for love just yet. It will come along, and when it does, you’ll be ready for it.

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Bridesman? When guys become your braidesmen

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In contemporary western culture a bridesman is a close male relative and/or friend of the bride, one who walks down the aisle in the bridal ceremony in the traditional place of a bridesmaid. The term, however, has an ancient and obscure, possibly confabulated origin.
Again, there are no rules, so be creative with what you call your male maid of honor, whether it's the man of honor, the bride's best man, or something completely unique to your friendship. Bridesman, groomswoman, friend or sibling—what you call them is your call.
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Actor Daniel K Daniel proposes to girlfriend

A marriage proposal will (hopefully) only happen once in your lifetime, so you'll want it to be memorable and perfect. Nollywood king, Daniel K Daniel clocked a new age and decided to pop the question to his sweetheart - Tina who is a make-up artist loved every bit of the surprise - The entire cinema room was halted for the romantic moment Daniel K Daniel turned a year older on May 22, to celebrate his new age, the actor shared the special moment with his sweetheart by popping the question. daniel k Daniel K is a Nollywood actor who began his acting career in 2009, shortly after he graduated from the university. The handsome man has graced the screen of many Nigerians since then except when he took a one year break in order to fulfill the mandatory NYSC program. dan k2 Rumours of Daniel dating Toyin Abraham after certain pictures of them cozied up surfaced online have now been put to rest bearing his actions. Daniel K Daniel and Toyin Abraham's photo from a movie scene Before going in for the kill, Daniel tweeted, informing his fans of his next move which was to ask Tina to be his forever. Surprised Tina said yes excitedly as people congratulated the duo.

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Opinion Polls: why good girls do not marry early?

Nigerian lady reveals why good girls do not marry early A Nigerian lady has identified a rather weird phenomenon in the society that is gradually becoming the norm. She aired out her opinion about this pressing issue through Joro Olumofin’s page. Joro Olumofin is a Lagos based therapist and a love doctor who helps people find solution to burning issues that have to do with relationship. th (16) Joro Olumofin   The unidentified Nigerian lady has been able to make a honest observation about a trending issue in the society and has proffered a solution to it. It has been observed that good girls find it hard to settle down fast and early as compared to the bad girls who are everywhere. th (14) The young lady who decided to treat the issue made good examples of the kind of lifestyle both the good and bad girl lives. She also made note of the things that get men attracted to them in different ways. The solution is for ladies to make themselves unavailable. While every man wants a good girl for keeps, most of the guys out there keep running after the bad girl who is sophisticated and always not available. The lady thus advised that good girls should try as much as possible to make themselves scarce as this could change something in their guys who are used to having them at their beck and call. Considering the fact that the world population ratio of girls to boys is about same so its not a deficiency situation. The sex ratio at birth worldwide is commonly thought to be 107 boys to 100 girls, although this value is subject to debate in the scientific community. The sex ratio for the entire world population is 101 males to 100 females. Depending upon which definition is used, between 0.1% and 1.7% of live births are intersex. The world population was estimated to have reached 7,500,000,000 at 16:21( UTC) on April 24, 2017. ... World population reached 7 billion on October 31, 2011 according to the United Nations Population Fund Guys, ladies, do you agree with this?

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Dealing with single motherhood

In fairness, the challenges of caring for kids alone are innumerable. But there are some hardships unique to the individual, and others that are hard time and time again from our single-mum friends. So this list is an overview of those common single mum struggles, along with some encouragements and suggestions to help you deal with them.

  1. Financial strain.
The most common life events that lead to single parenthood—death, divorce, etc.—upset more than just your marital status. They upset your financial balance, and leave one adult shouldering a load that is typically carried by two. Even if you’re a single adoptive parent and chose the challenge of going it alone, it’s still tough. Single mums often hang in limbo waiting for child support that never arrives or paying attorneys to pursue what should be paid. There always seems to be a little less in the checking account than what your kids need. While you can’t control others (like an ex-spouse), you can control your own decisions and get organized and intentional about how you handle your money to lessen the stress. Consult with a financial planner, to help make every kobo go as far as possible. And remember: what your children need most—your love—you do have in abundance. Lavish them with that, and lay down the guilt of not being able to give them every material thing they desire .mother
  1. Social isolation.
Single mums sometimes feel trapped underneath a mountain of responsibility that never allows them to invest in friendships, much less find another companion for life. Working single mums say the guilt of leaving your kids in the evening to do something just for yourself is crushing. Add to that the cost of hiring a helper and getting out of the house for adult interaction seems almost impossible. You need friendships and encouragement, so this is not a frivolous concern. Look for environments that allow for some social time for you while keeping the kids occupied or entertained: a church small group that offers childcare, an exercise class at a gym with a kids’ space. And maybe once a month, go to dinner with friends and really talk about what’s going on in your life. Single-Parent-Household-1024x682
  1. Decision pressure.
Parenting is hard. There are lots of gray areas and the game changes daily as your children grow. For married parents, there’s at least another adult to talk things out with, and to share the burden of making tough decisions. Single parents bear the weight of all of those tough calls—where to go to school, which friends are okay, or when a child is mature enough for a new privilege or responsibility—alone. The emotional burden can wear a mum down in a hurry. Seek out a trusted parenting mentor or peer to bounce some thoughts off of. It might be a friend from church, your own parents, or a pastor or counselor. Make sure your chosen sounding board shares your fundamental values so you’ll be certain to receive advice that matches up with them. Although the final parenting decision will still be yours to make, getting some feedback on your parental plan can lessen your anxiety and embolden you to do the hard things that parenting sometimes requires. shutterstock_153205244-605x518
  1. Guilt.
Is there any end to the guilt a single parent feels? If you know that your decisions (some of which you may regret) contributed to your current family status, it’s especially present. There’s guilt about the financial things you can’t provide, guilt about the time you spend away from them, guilt about the things you just can’t do because of your situation. Regardless of how your children became the kids of a single parent, you worry daily about the effect that it’s having on them and feel responsible. If your single status is the result of a poor decision: own your mistake, learn from it, and move on. We all make mistakes, and the guilt we feel is only helpful in as much as it helps us to correct problems and become better people. If your current situation is the result of the mistakes of another, do yourself a favour and forgive. The burden of anger is too much for you to bear forever. You can’t get in a time machine and fix the past, but you can do your best to make today better—so focus your energy there. Work on relationships with your kids’ other parent/step-parent so that they feel less friction. Be a great example today and trust God to fill in the gaps that are beyond your reach.  
  1. Fatigue.
Let’s face it: you’re doing alone what was designed to be a two-person job. The fact that you often feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually worn out is not just your imagination. But because your kids depend on you, you can’t afford to push yourself past a certain point. You must take care of yourself and your health in order to be there for them. Spend that time recharging in some way that will continue to pay benefits when the busyness kicks back in: with exercise, spiritual growth, or good, old-fashioned sleep. Take a look at these quick and easy energy boosters for ideas! It’s not selfish to maintain the engine that keeps your home running: you. Are you a single mum? Have you experienced any form of struggles? Tell us about it in the comment box below.

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Why I’m still single’ – Rita Dominic opens up 

 The pressure on men and especially women to marry when you get to a certain age can be unbearable.

People should not be put under undue pressure when it comes to choosing your life partner.

Sometimes marriage is not how fast you go into it but how well.

Rita Dominic is a Nigerian actress. In 2012 she won the Africa Movie Academy Award for Best Actress.
In an interview with new magazine, Schick, owned Dr Sid's wife, Simi Esiri, multiple award-winning actress Rita Dominic, 41, revealed when asked why she was still single that she could have been married a long time ago, but things didn’t work out with the person.
"I believe that God is in charge of my life and will present the right man to me at the right time,” she said.
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Asked whether social pressure to settle down get to her, Rita replied,
"I am a human being and I would be lying to say that it doesn’t sometimes. More so because it’s something I sincerely want to do but the feeling passes when I remember that society will not live with the person. I will live with the man, so it is very important that I do it because I want to, not because society wants it for me.”Speaking about sex and if it gets better with age, Rita said;
"If you ordinarily don’t enjoy it, age won’t make a difference. I find that when a woman embraces her sexuality, many Nigerians equate it to being Ashewo , as if we should act like sex is not pleasurable,”
Speaking about dating, Rita said she dates when someone special comes around but finds it generally as a nightmare
"especially in this days of social media where with one click you are all over the internet.”
She also admits that she loves being in a relationship;
"I love being totally drawn to someone and doing all those loving things couples do, but I am also wary of liars and bullies"

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Mrs. Right! How to know if she is “the one”

You met someone who laughs at your jokes, has interests similar to yours and always has your back. But how do you know she’s the one to marry? Deciding to spend the rest of your life (theoretically) with another person is a major decision, and you want to do everything you can to avoid screwing it up. Nothing is guaranteed, but we’ve come up with five ways to know she’s The One.

She Loves You, Not Just Your Lifestyle

One thing that’s crucial to any relationship is unconditional support. Sure, it’s easy for her to have your back when you’re making six figures, but will she be at your side if you don’t get that promotion, or if you decide to leave your job and pursue other interests? If the answer is an unequivocal yes, she might be your true love. “One of the biggest problems couples have is money, and specifically, differences in styles of spending and attitudes about their budget. So make sure you’re really on the same page.

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She Lets You In, and You Do the Same

Boundaries are healthy — we all have them. But if you’re wondering whether you’re ready to pledge the rest of your life to someone, make sure she can let you in. And we’re not talking about saving the day if you forget your keys. You want someone who can let down her guard and share all aspects of her life comfortably. She shouldn’t only allow you to see her at her best. If she’s willing to break down those walls, chances are you’ll feel inclined to do the same. That will pave the way for an honest and stable marriage.

She’s Not Difficult to Please

Every woman has her vices and standards, but you want to ensure you’ve found someone who isn’t impossible to please. Is she always complaining about wanting a bigger apartment or more extravagant gifts? If her gripes are valid, take them into consideration. But if she has unrealistic expectations and never seems satisfied, you might want to avoid taking your relationship to the next level. As cliché as it sounds, the most important aspect of your relationship should be your commitment to each other. mrs_always_right_just_married_humor_t_shirt-r601b7b842b514908abe519417507f62c_jyrkh_400

She’s Loyal and Has Gained Your Trust

This one seems obvious (at least as far as a monogamous relationship is concerned), but we’re not just talking about loyalty in a no-cheating way. When choosing to declare your unrivaled devotion to someone, you want to be positive she feels the same way. In other words, does she defend you when necessary? Do you trust her to have your back during disagreements with others? If the answer is yes, seems like you’ve found someone who’s as devoted to you as you are to them. relationship-goals-775x390

Your Family and Friends Approve

If your family and friends are important to you, it makes life a lot easier if they approve of the person you’re dating and intend to marry. If you’ve really found true love, chances are she brings out the best in you, and your loved ones can sense that and are pleased. Of course, not everyone gets along with one another, and you may have a cousin or old college pal who just doesn’t mesh with your significant other. That’s fine, but if most people in your life can’t get on board with your love, you might want to reassess the situation. If their reasons for disliking her are valid (“She’s too controlling”), take a step backwards.

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California woman jailed over fake Chinese marriage

A California woman was sentenced to six months in prison on Monday for running a fake marriage scam with her father to enable Chinese nationals to obtain immigration visas. Federal officials said Lynn Leung, 44, and her 67-year-old father, Jason Shiao, over nearly a decade organized more than 70 phony marriages for Chinese nationals who paid up to $50,000 for their services in order to obtain a permanent resident visa, or “green card.” Shiao, who posed as an immigration attorney, and his daughter — both of whom have pleaded guilty in the case — paired customers with US nationals who were in need of money and in some cases even homeless, federal investigators said. jail-generic_650x400_61469651050 The pair went to great length to deceive authorities, staging wedding photo shoots and organizing fake honeymoons, authorities said. They also coached couples on how to avoid detection by immigration authorities. The US citizen recruited for the scheme would be promised up to $10,000 but many told investigators that they never received payment. Investigators said Leung and her father netted up to $3.5 million dollars from the scheme that allowed them to enjoy a lavish lifestyle. In addition to her prison term, Leung on Monday was ordered to pay a $4,000 fine and will be on supervised release for three years. Shiao is set to be sentenced in the case on April 24. Earlier this month, federal agents raided a Los Angeles-area business suspected of being connected to a $50 million visa fraud scheme involving more than 100 Chinese investors. The investors obtained green cards through the so-called EB-5 visa program. The program offers foreign nationals permanent US residency in exchange for investments of at least $500,000 in a US business that must also create 10 American jobs. In this case, however, the investors proposed projects that were never built and some of their money was refunded to them by the key suspects — Victoria Chan, a California attorney, and her father, Tat Chan.   source: NDTV

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Sad story! Female graduate died while hunting for job

A Nigerian graduate of Chemistry named Fatimah Funmike Oyawoye is dead - She died while still hunting to get a nice job for herself in Nigeria - Fatimah is the only female child of her family and she died with her marital status still single The dream of Fatimah Funmike Oyawoye when she was young was for her to become a successful career woman, but she never knew that her dream would never come true as she died untimely. Fatimah died in the early hours of Friday, April 14, 2017 a day after she returned from a journey where she had gone to hunt for job. She was said to have complained of body pain and headache in which she was given some treatment, but passed on in her sleep. Born 27 years ago in a popular town in Kwara state called Offa, Fatimah is the only female child to her parent and they did all they could to support her education. jon Late Miss Fatimah Funmike Oyawoye She started her career at Adeola model school in Offa, Kwara state before she proceeded to Offa Grammar School where she graduated as one of the best science students. After she graduated from secondary school in the year 2003, Fatimah's parent relocated to Kaduna state where she was later admitted into Kaduna state polytechnic where she studied Applied science/Chemistry from the institution. Late Fatimah and the screen shot of her last message before her death Fatimah has been looking for a nice job since she completed her NYSC scheme in 2013, and she never got a job of her choice till her final breath on earth. According to a family source, fatimah was said to have died a day after returning from a journey where she had gone for a job interview. Her family has now been thrown into deep mourning considering the fact that she was the only female child who was still single before her sudden death. She has been buried according to Islamic rites.

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Celibate: We waited for 60 days to have sex – Tyrese Gibson

Celibate Dating means to go without sex, either willingly or not. Reasons include personal, religious, social, or bad luck. 

American actor, Tyrese Gibson and his wife Samantha Lee have revealed that they were celibate before getting married
The 'Fast and Furious' actor who had gone on a radio tour in NYC, to promote his movie 'Fate of the Furious' with his wife, were given some air time to divulge details on their coupledom on SiriusXM radio with host, Jenny McCarthy.
According to the couple, they waited 60 days to have sex because of their Christian faith.
'I’ll tell you proudly, we got active and it was so much magic,' said Tyrese. 'We decided to go 60 days without. We decided to become born-again virgins. We’re both Christians. We went from December 14 to February 14. It was hard—I mean, challenging!'
When McCarthy assumed that they 'dry humped like eighth graders,' Samantha shut her down saying:
Samantha: 'No, not even that. We didn’t kiss…”
Tyrese: “We did kiss. I just had to calm you down…”
Samantha: “It wasn’t like that…”
Tyrese: “Baby, don’t be embarrassed it was harder for you to get through the 60 days more than me. Just say it!”
On when they first met:
Tyrese said, 'We met through mutual friends in Atlanta.'
Jenny McCarthy: 'Was it love at first sight, Samantha?'
Samantha: 'The first time I met him I thought he was attractive but I didn’t trust him because he’s Tyrese.'
Speaking on their first date, Samantha said,
'When we met up again 2 years later. We had a very honest first date. He had reassured me that this wasn’t about hooking up, this was about actually meeting somebody.
Tyrese:
 'My exact words were, ‘I want you to know that I’m not lacking sex in my life. So let’s take that off the table.’ It gets better, I also said, ‘I want you to know that my motivation is not sex. I don’t want you to look at everything I’m saying and doing as I’m only and specifically motivated by trying to get you in bed. We can go months and months without sex.'
Tyrese Gibson and Samantha Lee got married on Valentine's day, February 14, 2017.